I had to be at an event at work this evening for a couple of hours, so STBX was with the kids this evening, on my night. I got two phone calls during the event from my daughter saying how angry she was at STBX.
Now, my daughter is a difficult child...lots of PTSD, and other issues stemming from neglectful and abusive birth parents. The phone call was partly a way to try to calm herself and partly a way to use me to get back at STBX for telling her what to do. It worked and STBX was in full flip out mode. Now, other than the affair thing, my STBX is a good mother to them, and I expect my kids to treat her respectfully.
But tonight I got on the phone with STBX and had to talk her down, and explained how i would speak to my daughter about her behavior. It was the right thing to do. My STBX was distraught, and ultimately my daughter would suffer, if I hadn't. It was the right thing to do, but It was hard being supportive to STBX. At least she thanked me...that's something I guess.
Not looking for feedback as I know I handled this mess the right way. Just letting off some steam, because it was hard. This relationship between the both of them will continue to be difficult, partly because of the typical mother-daughter issues of preteens, partly because of my daughter's many challenges, and partly because of what has happened since dday. One day at a time. Thanks for reading.