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User Topic: Hurry Up and Heal Already!
♂ 38233
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Suspicious  Posted: 8:18 AM, March 21st (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

When it comes to my emotions lately, I can't help but feel like an athlete being carted off the field during the big game. I'm more frustrated by the fact that I can't play than I'm actually hurt.

I haven't shed a tear over Ex-WW in God knows how long. She does things here and there to get my attention or a rise out of me, but I'm genuinely surprised by how little I care. At first I thought that I was lying to myself, and I waited for some type of breakdown to occur days later. Nope. Nothing. It's been this way for months now.

Despite my apathy toward her, I recognize that I still have a lot of scars. I know that it takes time, so I'm not rushing anything. It's just annoying that I really want to get back out there and move on, but I'm on injured reserve right now.

I'm kinda dating someone right now who's in a similar boat. It's slightly amusing, because both of us are so guarded that it's like we're dating through a fence. We've been very open about our trust issues, unwillingness to make anything official, and irrational mood swings toward whatever it is we've got going. I'm learning a lot about my recovery process by watching her go through hers.

I really just wish I could get my head back in the game.

D-Day: January 2013
Me, BH: 34
Her, WW: 34
Married 10 years
Kids: Daughter, 6
Divorced: Sep 2013

Posts: 46 | Registered: Jan 2013
♀ 34678
Member # 34678
Default  Posted: 8:27 AM, March 21st (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

THank you for this post!

I am also frustrated by how I don't "reason" things out correctly - both at work and with men.

I am 2 years out from DDAY. I believe the trauma we have been thru will continue to move further and further out of the picture the more "good" things come back into the forefront of our daily living.

Sometimes He calms the storm. Sometimes He lets the storm rage, but calms His child.
Dday 12/19/11
I gave a 24hour ultimatum then went to attorney next day. Shocked the hell out of him, with D papers, I'm proud to say!
D final10/30/2012

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