Topic: I hate her
Member # 38089
| Posted: 2:00 PM, March 21st (Friday), 2014|
Im sorry but I have to vent.
I hate that whore, white trash, dirty slut. I hate her so much that I hope she goes to the darkest place in hell. I hope that she gets a horrible disease and is put into the hospital and I can go visit her while she is on her death bed and tell her what a worthless piece of slut she is. I hope she suffers, I hope she loses the thing that is most precious in her life, and she has pain like she has inflicted on me. I hate her so much.
I feel like posting her pictures every where I can online and telling people what a horrible slut she is.
I am filled with such anger and hate.
F%&7 you. I think you are an old ugly, stupid bitch who will open her legs to anyone. Die and rot in hell forever.
From: the wife of the man you WISH you could be with.
BS(Me) - 32
WS(HUbbie) - 40
OW - 44 (a ugly, old, white trash horse faced Coworker)
Affair was 2 months long
3 kids - 5yr old, and twins 8 months
Dday - 12/25/12 (lots of signs before I should have seen)
Posts: 574 | Registered: Jan 2013
Member # 31349
| Posted: 2:02 PM, March 21st (Friday), 2014|
"All the wars, all the hatred, all the ignorance in the world come out of being so invested in our opinions. And at bottom, those opinions are merely our efforts to escape the underlying uneasiness of being human. - Pema Chodron
Posts: 20727 | Registered: Feb 2011 | From: California
Member # 40819
| Posted: 2:51 PM, March 21st (Friday), 2014|
I can feel your pain in your post. I'm so sorry (((heartbroken2012)))
I just made a vent recently to my WS. It feels good to get it out and know there are people who "get it"
I'm sorry you have so much anger and pain. I hope that one day this can be something you can let go ( I'm speaking to both of us when I say this)
But I'm not going to lie, I have more profound hatred/disrespect for these types of woman/men than I did before DDay.
Oh and don't be sorry, I think it's healthy to get it out and it's great to have a safe place vent.
[This message edited by kate0421 at 2:52 PM, March 21st (Friday)]
Together over 10yrs
DDAY 9/23/2013- 2 ONS (2009-2010)
TT. 5/14/2014- slept with OW1 twice
Posts: 322 | Registered: Sep 2013 | From: Florida
Member # 41690
| Posted: 2:53 PM, March 21st (Friday), 2014|
Heartbroken2012, you've been heard and I'm sorry! We all feel like that at certain times and know that she WILL get hers one day. Maybe not right now, but she will.
Wishing you peace!
Married: 9 years but together for 15
Recovering, Reconciling, Rebuilding, Restoring
Posts: 123 | Registered: Dec 2013 | From: New York
Member # 41135
| Posted: 3:01 PM, March 21st (Friday), 2014|
So sorry honey, you can feel your sadness, anger hate in every word. I understand what you are going thru and had many day dreams of what I wanted to happen to "his friend". If she lived in my town I probably would have been arrested for stalking.
I hear you I understand you and I only hope that one day the AP and WS grasp the magnitude of what they have done and if it takes damnation into the lowest circle of hell, so be it.
I hope you feel validated in your feelings because you are heard!
Me BW 52, Him WH 48
Married 13 years,
2 DDs (12 and 10)
D-Day Confirmed 10/24/13 suspected before that but did not want to believe it.
WH filed for D 11/12/13
2/8/14 WH asked if he could come home.
Posts: 277 | Registered: Oct 2013 | From: Midwest
Member # 39439
| Posted: 3:09 PM, March 21st (Friday), 2014|
I am living proof that the karma bus will get her in the end. I didn't realize how much I was hurting someone else. I had no idea. I am so sorry for what I did to her over 35 years ago. If it makes you feel better, I will suffer with that knowledge for the rest of my life. I now know how much I hurt her. He was having affairs with several of us at the same time. I thought I was special. I thought I was the one. I was so stupid. I was well played. I was vulnerable. I don't know if she ever really believed he did that. He was so convincing. I am sure he lied his way out of all of them. But, I know. It has eaten at me for years. In a way, I deserve this. I deserve my WS betrayal. I deserve to rot in hell.
So, take solace that she will get hers.
And remember Murphy is right. Nothing is so bad that it can't get worse!!!
Posts: 1540 | Registered: Jun 2013 | From: Ontario, Canada
Member # 40613
| Posted: 3:12 PM, March 21st (Friday), 2014|
I am so sorry you are going through this today. I do believe there is a special place in hell for unremorseful people that try to destroy innocent people's families. The farther out I get from all of this, the more I see them as such broken, pathetic people. I hope your fwh is helping you deal with all of this. I have s private Pintrest page that only I can see. I post every mean, nasty thing I feel for them there. It helps get it out of my system and invisibly tells the world about them. It makes me feel a little better. It helps to get the poison out. I hope your day get better.
Blinded-sided DD 9/2011
Again 11/2011 and then more truth the next day. Separated 4 months. 2012, the year of truth and reconciliation.
Posts: 74 | Registered: Sep 2013
Member # 39476
| Posted: 9:36 AM, March 22nd (Saturday), 2014|
((heartbroken2012))) You are my new SUPER WOMAN!!!
I second what you feel. The only difference between the AP is: that piece of shit that my H got his ego kibbles from is that it is an old washed up, ghetto mentality, project living skank ass ......
ME Doing Better
WH Trying As Best He Can
Married 23 years
Status: Working towards friendship
D Day #1 - 2007 My gut told me
D Day #2 - 2010 His D told me
D Day #3 - 1/11/2013 OW Confirmed
LTA 7 years
Both feet pointed forward; positive
Posts: 508 | Registered: Jun 2013 | From: Inner Peace
Member # 28979
| Posted: 10:19 AM, March 22nd (Saturday), 2014|
I told myself along time ago that sometimes its ok to not be ok! Its ok to hate that woman. Im sorry that we were all betrayed. I truly believe that the people who did such hurtful things will get whats coming to them eventually.
Wh-32 yrs old then, now 37
bs-(me)33 yrs old then, now 38
2 teens and a dog
Mow- our realtor, 45 then, now 50
1st D-day EA w/mow our realtor 4-?-2007, 2nd D-day PA w/ same mow 5-29-2010
3rd D-day waitress he went home with 6-2010
Posts: 1148 | Registered: Jul 2010 | From: Pacific Northwest
Member # 26970
| Posted: 11:23 AM, March 22nd (Saturday), 2014|
I truly believe that the people who did such hurtful things will get whats coming to them eventually.
..well, it took a while, but bfOM got what was coming to him.. a non-operable brain tumour at 57.
..dead as a doornail! howz that for karma? .. not to mention the year it took him to steadily decline while his family looked on.
..he had to have thought about how his choices in life came back to bite him in the ass. lost his law practice as his body and mind deteriorated..
..I have zero sympathy for this stinking pile of shit.. I visit his grave every so often to pay my 'disrespects' and do my happy dance. ..'water' the flowers, so to speak!
..my hatred for him knows no bounds.. next week I'll bring the kittylitter deposits.. good fertilizer.
trust no other human- love only your pets
She isn't and never was who I thought..I can't believe who I married and what she did to us.
Married 42 yrs (together 47)
18 yr LTA with bff/lawyer !!
Posts: 4187 | Registered: Dec 2009 | From: the sad state of affairs
Member # 38303
| Posted: 11:36 AM, March 22nd (Saturday), 2014|
Vent away. This is the best place for it.
"Just like that, you see the fruit of the confusion,
He caught in a reality, she caught in an illusion"
Posts: 2800 | Registered: Jan 2013 | From: #WindyCity
Member # 30826
| Posted: 11:38 AM, March 22nd (Saturday), 2014|
M: June 2001
..that feeling you get in your stomach, when you heart's broken. It's like all the butterflies just died.
Posts: 8616 | Registered: Jan 2011 | From: Indiana
Member # 35593
| Posted: 1:35 PM, March 22nd (Saturday), 2014|
You have my complete understanding. I feel every word you wrote. Sometimes the best we can do is vent so we do not get sent away for going stark raving crazy over all this. I wish we could all get some kind of justice but our tolerant society does not condemn infidelity as the assault it really is to us. If someone steals from us, hits us, yells slurs at us, threatens us, makes a sexual comment to us, or even looks at us in a sexual way, we can have them arrested or we can sue. Get your whole life ripped apart by sexual infidelity, lose your home, lose your life partner, get a disease, get emotionally hurt children, or lose half your life savings? What do we get? We hear that the AP owes you nothing. Get over it. No crime here. Move on along, nothing to see here.
Married 30+ years
Together trying to R
I tell people I am tired but really my heart is broken and I am sad.
Posts: 1758 | Registered: May 2012 | From: Southern, bless your heart
Member # 42551
| Posted: 4:27 PM, March 22nd (Saturday), 2014|
I used to hate her. Now I'm just amused by her. Because se felt like such a winner and like she had such a victory over me by being my friend and his bit on the side. She told me in a drunken state once that she felt like I was better than her because I had bigger breasts and hips and nice lips and eyes and because I was much more intelligent. So she felt like she'd really won big by having my ex sneaking around with her. Well, she wasn't the only one. Not by a long shot. And he turned out to be one of the most disgusting human beings on the planet. And it's well known. I can imagine her picking up a newspaper on one of the days he was written about and reading all about her one time AP and his numerous illegal exploits and affairs and experiencing her own kind of dday. That not only was she not special and completely used, but all this was by a man she didn't even know. She luuuurved a complete fantasy character. And I hope her smug messages to me about how she knew I was bitter because she had connected with him on a level I couldn't understand- I hope that came back to haunt her. The man didn't exist and neither did the "level." This amuses me. If ever I see her, I'm encouraged to smile to myself at how much that must haw stung and how much she deserved that.
Never looking back with longing. Always looking forward with hope.
Posts: 58 | Registered: Feb 2014
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