Me: BH, 51
Does this happen to anyone else?
Part of our R is dealing with the fact that WW had become almost completely sexless and affectionless with me, making her PA that much more painful. Things are improving, she's attending MC with me, genuine remorse, etc., etc.
But I'm still supersensitive to the issue of being desired and wanted. Recently, she started to backslide (kisses were tight-lipped pecks instead of warm, sex is only happening when the circumstances are perfect, which is almost never with a kid in the house)...I pointed this out to her and she notified me that tonight she would make it up to me. Very sexy, very affectionate as she made the offer.
This is exactly what I said I wanted, right? So why did I feel just as dissatisfied? I felt no excitement, no positive anticipation. The hurt look on her face made me feel awful.
Sometimes I feel I'm putting her in a no-win situation, and I have to really force myself to knock it off. I just don't know why I'm doing it in the first place.
Her: WW, 51
D-Day 12/27/2013 3-month PA with family friend
Me: WH, 50
Her: BW, 50
D-day: 12/27/2013 (about A that happened 14-15 years ago w/coworker)