Good morning mal!
I read back over a few of your posts to get a sense of your sitch, and if I get a few things wrong, please forgive!
I feel like talking to you like an older brother, so let's sit down for a cuppa, shall we?
Little sister listen, let's look at some highlights:
- this guy sleeps all day?
- you said he has had multiple AP's?
- there's some odd, passive aggressive/manipulative shenanigans from him too; woe is me, rugsweep, anger at you, walking in the rain, etc...
I want you to be strong within yourself and realize something.
His words mean nothing. He has taught you to be happy at the crumbs he tosses your way: he's proud of you...then he will go back to *whatever* when real, deep self-reflection and working on his issues is required.
Things are so easy to say.
Where is his remorse?
Where are his consistent actions, over time, that show you true remorse?
Watch. Stop listening. You're being "fed". Crumbs.
Instead, be proud of yourself - for going to school, for putting one foot forward in front of another, for continuing to survive this mess he has made of things.
Stop depending on his words of approval. Approve of yourself - and watch him.
So, you're *hot* are you?
Yeah, well, close the bakery then sister.
Until you see consistent action over time, and close your ears to his words -
until you see remorse that is real, and looks like this:
http://www.survivinginfidelity.com/forums.asp?tid=324250&HL=25460
...you will continue to spin around in uncertainty. He needs to grow up.
You need to depend on yourself.
Be strong. You can do this.
