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cmego posted 3/22/2014 12:06 PM

For those friends who were cheering me on after finally meeting a decent guy…the finale…

We were in contact this week, but he really pulled back after our last phone call. I finally received a very nice email from him where he apologized for his behavior, told me how wonderful I am and that if the timing had been different, this would be a different ending. He wanted to see where this would go too. But he is deploying quicker than we planned, wants to spend the last few weeks with his dd and just has nothing to give a relationship right now.

I wished him well, and told him when things calmed down for him I would be happy to consider a pen-pal type friendship.

I had already pulled him off of my FB, deleted all emails and removed him from my phone so I would not be tempted to contact him.

I let him come to me, and he did.

I'm going to take a little time to just process this. It went from great to break up in less than a week. I am sad because he is a good man, the first I could actually see a future with...but I'm also happy that I DID finally meet a decent guy on OLD.

I took a risk and I don't regret it. If we come back together in the future, I would welcome it, but if I never hear from him again, I know I will be perfectly fine and moving forward.

Williesmom posted 3/22/2014 12:34 PM

((Cmego))

I'm glad that you're ok with it.

Not all endings are bad.

jo2love posted 3/22/2014 12:38 PM

(((Cmego)))

FaithFool posted 3/22/2014 12:52 PM

Sometimes timing sucks. Onward.

Williesmom posted 3/22/2014 13:01 PM

T/j

Faith: most clear and succinct 3 word answer EVER.

End t/j

better4me posted 3/22/2014 17:39 PM

Glad you are okay. (Hell, you know what? You're more than okay, you're freaking awesome!)

nowiknow23 posted 3/22/2014 17:48 PM

(((cmego)))

cmego posted 3/22/2014 18:06 PM

Going to have to grieve for a bit. But, I think I should take the time and just be thankful…going to send him positive thoughts because I know how hard this deployment is for him, find my lesson in here somewhere.

Going back on OLD isn't appealing right now, so I know I need to take some time and just BE.

Eating ice-cream tonight whilst studying for a research project and trying to forget he was supposed to be here for the weekend with me.

Onward.

phmh posted 3/22/2014 18:17 PM

(((cmego)))

I have a feeling this isn't the last you'll be hearing from him. I hope things turn out as you'd like.

Amazonia posted 3/22/2014 18:46 PM

I'm with phmh and FaithFool both.

And I know what you mean about feeling almost encouraged just to have met someone, even if it didn't work out.

cmego posted 3/22/2014 19:24 PM

You guys rock.

Saw this on UpWorthy, and just how I am feeling. "Thank Love for stopping by…"

http://www.upworthy.com/a-beautiful-explanation-of-the-differences-between-the-fantasy-of-love-and-the-reality-of-love?c=ufb2

caregiver9000 posted 3/22/2014 20:51 PM

(((cmego)))

I think it is premature to call it "finale" ... Well, ok. There could be a sequel. I think the grown up way you left it and the positive energy you are giving the process leaves it very open for another chapter.

Grieve. Take the time. You are loved.

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