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New Beginnings :
New Man finale

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 cmego (original poster member #30346) posted at 6:06 PM on Saturday, March 22nd, 2014

For those friends who were cheering me on after finally meeting a decent guy…the finale…

We were in contact this week, but he really pulled back after our last phone call. I finally received a very nice email from him where he apologized for his behavior, told me how wonderful I am and that if the timing had been different, this would be a different ending. He wanted to see where this would go too. But he is deploying quicker than we planned, wants to spend the last few weeks with his dd and just has nothing to give a relationship right now.

I wished him well, and told him when things calmed down for him I would be happy to consider a pen-pal type friendship.

I had already pulled him off of my FB, deleted all emails and removed him from my phone so I would not be tempted to contact him.

I let him come to me, and he did.

I'm going to take a little time to just process this. It went from great to break up in less than a week. I am sad because he is a good man, the first I could actually see a future with...but I'm also happy that I DID finally meet a decent guy on OLD.

I took a risk and I don't regret it. If we come back together in the future, I would welcome it, but if I never hear from him again, I know I will be perfectly fine and moving forward.

me...BS, 46 years old.
Divorced

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Williesmom ( member #22870) posted at 6:34 PM on Saturday, March 22nd, 2014

((Cmego))

I'm glad that you're ok with it.

Not all endings are bad.

You can stuff your sorries in a sack, mister. -George Costanza
There is a special place in hell for women who don't help other women. - Madeleine Albright

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jo2love ( member #31528) posted at 6:38 PM on Saturday, March 22nd, 2014

(((Cmego)))

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FaithFool ( member #20150) posted at 6:52 PM on Saturday, March 22nd, 2014

Sometimes timing sucks. Onward.

DDay: June 15, 2008
Mistakenly married Mr. Superfreak
20 years of OWs, WTF?
Divorced Dec 26, 2011
"Life is a shipwreck, but we must not forget
to sing in the lifeboats". -- Voltaire

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Williesmom ( member #22870) posted at 7:01 PM on Saturday, March 22nd, 2014

T/j

Faith: most clear and succinct 3 word answer EVER.

End t/j

You can stuff your sorries in a sack, mister. -George Costanza
There is a special place in hell for women who don't help other women. - Madeleine Albright

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better4me ( member #30341) posted at 11:39 PM on Saturday, March 22nd, 2014

Glad you are okay. (Hell, you know what? You're more than okay, you're freaking awesome!)

DDay 11/17/2010 BW:58
Happily remarried!

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nowiknow23 ( member #33226) posted at 11:48 PM on Saturday, March 22nd, 2014

(((cmego)))

You can call me NIK

And never grow a wishbone, daughter, where your backbone ought to be.
― Sarah McMane

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 cmego (original poster member #30346) posted at 12:06 AM on Sunday, March 23rd, 2014

Going to have to grieve for a bit. But, I think I should take the time and just be thankful…going to send him positive thoughts because I know how hard this deployment is for him, find my lesson in here somewhere.

Going back on OLD isn't appealing right now, so I know I need to take some time and just BE.

Eating ice-cream tonight whilst studying for a research project and trying to forget he was supposed to be here for the weekend with me.

Onward.

me...BS, 46 years old.
Divorced

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phmh ( member #34146) posted at 12:17 AM on Sunday, March 23rd, 2014

(((cmego)))

I have a feeling this isn't the last you'll be hearing from him. I hope things turn out as you'd like.

Me: BW, divorced, now fabulous and happy!

Married: 11 years, no kids

Character is destiny

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Amazonia ( member #32810) posted at 12:46 AM on Sunday, March 23rd, 2014

I'm with phmh and FaithFool both.

And I know what you mean about feeling almost encouraged just to have met someone, even if it didn't work out.

"You yourself deserve your love and affection as much as anybody in the universe." -Buddha
"Let's face it, life is a crap shoot." -Sad in AZ

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 cmego (original poster member #30346) posted at 1:24 AM on Sunday, March 23rd, 2014

You guys rock.

Saw this on UpWorthy, and just how I am feeling. "Thank Love for stopping by…"

http://www.upworthy.com/a-beautiful-explanation-of-the-differences-between-the-fantasy-of-love-and-the-reality-of-love?c=ufb2

me...BS, 46 years old.
Divorced

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caregiver9000 ( member #28622) posted at 2:51 AM on Sunday, March 23rd, 2014

(((cmego)))

I think it is premature to call it "finale" ... Well, ok. There could be a sequel. I think the grown up way you left it and the positive energy you are giving the process leaves it very open for another chapter.

Grieve. Take the time. You are loved.

Me: fortysomething, independent, happy,
XH "Stretch" (and Skew!) ;)
two kids, teens. Old enough I am truly NO CONTACT w/ NPD zebraduck
S 5/2010
D 12/2012

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