I ended up actually having a severe anaphylactic reaction from an IV vitamin infusion at the doctor's office and he was my emergency contact and he came to pick me up from the office. Apparently, he said that we had a conversation when he brought me into the house later that night. I was high off my ass on benadryl shots and he thinks "wow, what a great time to talk more about how our relationship has ended".
His true colors have shown and I am beyond disgusted. I, of course, did not remember any of this CONVERSATION because I had almost died that night. No biggie.
Then he says to contact him later in the day when I am feeling better. So I send him a text. He ignores it, like he has tended to do throughout this whole breakup shit. And of course I get pissed off because HE is the one who told me to contact HIM!
It was a Saturday night so I know he was out drinking. Then after a few more texts, he says "I'm not talking tonight. We will talk tomorrow." And this angers me even more because its ALWAYS when HE wants to fucking talk. And so I said I'm done with wanting to talk when YOU DO. FUCK IT and fuck off." Then he continues to ignore me and then calls my phone around 12:30AM, and i dont answer.
He keeps calling and I text him saying "I don't want to hear whatever pissy shit you have to say" Then he keeps calling so I pick up. But I finally cave in and answer, and he just says "WHAT?" and I'm like "what?" and I'm already crying because he's been so mean to me lately. And he's like "I came all the way down to the office to take care of you yesterday, don't talk to me anymore". I said yea, that's because you feel guilty for all this cheating shit that you have done. If it makes it easier for you to sleep at night, then go ahead and tell yourself that you're a real stand up guy, ya know? If people found out that you were my emergency contact and DID NOT come to pick me up it would make you look like a HUGE ASSHOLE! and then he just flips his lid and starts yelling at me that I am a SELFISH ASS BITCH and that I am DEAD TO HIM! He says that I hurt people he cares about! I'm like "Are you fucking kidding me right now?" and hung up. then he sends a text that says "We're fucking done" which he kept saying throughout the phone conversation. I'm like "NO SHIT WE ARE DONE you made that clear when you started cheating on me!" He then claimed that I was a selfish bitch, and I said "Go look in the mirror dude! The cheating was ALL YOU!"
Sorry, just needed to vent. It's like he is trying to turn ME into the BAD GUY so he can feel better about leaving the relationship in such a crappy way. Everything about his actions and his attitude is SO COWARDLY.
I found e-mails between them.
Don't listen to his baiting and switching. The minimising. The blameshifting. Every single reply on the phone and texting is one of these abusive tactics. If you look at his statements, there is no communication going on, just hurtful avoiding bullshit. All of it.
Please do yourself a favor and go NC on him. You are getting nothing but brain damage and pain from it.
I hate him for you and would love to punch him in the throat for you. Noone deserves to be spoken to like that.
He is a perfect example of a worthless asshole.
NC=No New Hurts. Memorize it, then live it.
Peace to you.
There is hope. Once you truly commit to focusing on yourself and letting go, it comes back, and you will appreciate it like never before.
“Many of us crucify ourselves between two thieves - regret for the past and fear of the future.” -foulton oursler
180 that motherfucker. Check it out in the healing library if you haven't yet.