So in meeting with L she asked me to start thinking about what I felt was in the best interest of the boys for custody. While I completely agree to joint legal- the physical is harder.
My stbxwh travels for work. Some months he was gone 2/30 days some months 18/30 days.
I am a teacher and have been able to pick boys up everyday at a reasonable time. I can often get them home between 4-430 giving them a good hour to chill/homework before dinner and any night activities. This is really important to me.
I have been able to stay with them every snow day, every sick day. When stbxwh had to leave at 6 am to drive somewhere (at least once a week) I can always get them to school.
My point is- I have been there constant. They have never been without me except for occasional weekend trips with stbxwh (2-3 times a year).
They are used to him being gone several times a week, sometimes for a whole week.
He says he is going to put all of his travel in 1 week and be home 1 week to do week on/week off custody. He has NEVER been able to do this in 7 years before. Most of these 4 weeks we've been S- he has been gone 50% of each week...
He also talks about quitting and staying around. I find that very hard to believe because he loves his job and would have a hard time finding 130,000 yr job, company car and gas card, etc locally.
Anyway- I *think* I might go for alt weekends, one overnight visit per week, 1/2 holidays and 4 weeks summer.
Have any of you achieved this? Does it work well? Thoughts on this with regard to my situation?
He says he is going to fight tooth and nail for 50%, but I feel like this is financially motivated and I don't feel like that would be in the kid's best interests at all.
I live in Canada.