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Virginiagirl (original poster member #41656) posted at 4:54 PM on Sunday, March 23rd, 2014
I knew I'd regret this- let WH sleep over last night. Told myself it was just mutual comforting but of course it just confuses things.
Damnit!
And I was reminded of how much he feels like home to me, like a part of me.
I have to remember this doesn't change certain facts that made my decision for me. This doesn't mean he gets another chance.
Dammit I shoulda stood strong! Bad Virginiagirl!
Me- BS-43
Him-WS-42
Married 15 years, living together 20
DDay May 2013
TT ongoing
2 kids, 11 & 15
OW- old girlfriend from High School.
damnUnicorns ( member #42691) posted at 4:58 PM on Sunday, March 23rd, 2014
I'm sorry it hurts. But you are human and didn't ask for all this. At least you realize it was your choice & that it doesn't really mean anything will change.
I live with my WH & we are sharing a bed this weekend because our son is
visiting.
It makes you miss things you used to take for granted (like them sleeping next to you). But it's also made me realize how much changed. It's not as comfortable as it used to be.
Big hugs, I hope this doesn't set you back.
Unremorseful WH-48
BW(me)-46
M 26+ years
DS 26, DD 23
H moved out 10/3/12
IN House S, H lost job 2/7/14→now
Dday 1- 3/2002 short EA/PA w-COW
Dday 2- 2/12/14→LTA, H STILL seeing "Bi"MfCOW (OW now S too)!
cluless ( member #40538) posted at 6:09 PM on Sunday, March 23rd, 2014
Hey Virginia Girl,
My WH went after his HS girlfriend too, and thought he was in love with her for an entire year during our M. Lovely, huh? I admire you, at least you made a decision, sure there are times when you feel vulnerable, use him, but then push it back to where it belongs (not in your life.)
I decided last night to get a D. It's NOT working, I can't get over what he did, I tried I really did. It breaks my heart, but I can't live like this anymore. Good luck my dear.
WH 57
BS 55 -- Me!
LTA EA/PA 1-1/2 years.
D-Day 8-12, 2nd D-Day 9-13, 3rd D-Day 10-13 (stopped counting tt still coming in)
Married 17 yrs, together 20.
MC & IC has been a JOKE.
Status: We're going to try IC one more time.
Virginiagirl (original poster member #41656) posted at 6:22 PM on Sunday, March 23rd, 2014
Cluless
Just read your profile and our stories are eerily similar, timelines and all.
I think that if I tried to R with mine now I'd have more ddays in the future, like you did. I think he believes his love for her is real, too.
I'll never trust him. I might be doomed to love him forever, but my trust in what I thought we were is shattered. He still won't tell me shit.
Just because last night felt good and he said alot of the right things to get here, I still remember how he acted last time I tried to give him a second chance. Even when he left this morning.... I wasn't impressed. He was back to business.
Me- BS-43
Him-WS-42
Married 15 years, living together 20
DDay May 2013
TT ongoing
2 kids, 11 & 15
OW- old girlfriend from High School.
PurpleRose ( member #33129) posted at 6:24 PM on Sunday, March 23rd, 2014
I did that early on as well... And of course felt like shit again pretty quickly after.
Learn from it, remember how it makes you feel, and carry on.
divorced the Dooosh 8/13
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Dance like nobody is watching,
Text and email like it will be used in court someday...
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