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User Topic: I know my worth
risingfromashes
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Member # 3903
Default  Posted: 7:35 PM, March 23rd (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Been dating someone for just 2 months and it is my first venture into the dating world since asking the ex to leave 3/2010.
He calls me on almost daily basis but in the last 3 weeks does not have time to see me. Keeps telling me about how tied up he is and unavailable. We live 4 miles away from each other. His children are grown. I do point out that I have a life too.
I do not expect to be anyone's #1 priority because I will always put my children first. Also school, career etc. But I should be in somewhere the top 25 priority list.
I am not angry, annoyed or bothered. I told him in a friendly voice that he should call me when he has time to see me. I meant it. Think he did not really hear me. Oh well.
I will never take a back seat again. I will never allow myself to be treated as an after thought.

He steps up I will see him again. If not, his loss. Damn New Beginnings is so empowering!


There is a wonderful life on the other side of hell.

Posts: 1913 | Registered: Mar 2004
somer222
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Default  Posted: 8:08 PM, March 23rd (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Good for you! You handled this situation very well.

Posts: 1531 | Registered: Oct 2008
Bluebird26
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Member # 36445
Default  Posted: 4:02 AM, March 24th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Bravo!

It's great you can recognise when someone isn't maintaining your boundaries.


Me: BW

Best thing I gained in my divorce - my freedom.

Life's good.


Posts: 1502 | Registered: Aug 2012 | From: Australia
cmego
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Member # 30346
Default  Posted: 10:36 AM, March 24th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

It is very empowering to say, "I deserve better" and walk away. :) Good for you.

I call it "the art of letting go".


me...BS, 44 years old, 2 small kids
WS, 41, multiple gay affairs
M 15 years, together 17
Divorced


Posts: 4562 | Registered: Dec 2010 | From: South
risingfromashes
♀ 3903
Member # 3903
Default  Posted: 5:19 PM, March 24th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I call it "the art of letting go"

Exactly!! After hanging on to my marriage like a drowning person clinging to a sinking ship, I know that letting go is a huge step in the direction of growth and healing.

I have worried in the past few years that I might not have the ability to recognize when I am being co-dependent and wind up in another destructive relationship. Nope. Crossed that off my list!


There is a wonderful life on the other side of hell.

Posts: 1913 | Registered: Mar 2004
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