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User Topic: Another Old Lang Syne (My first trigger)
Wodnships
42750
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Default  Posted: 8:35 PM, March 23rd (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

The cheese love songs not withstanding I've always been a Dan Fogelberg fan. Leader of the band, Part of the Plan, etc are great songs. Another Old Lang Syne has always been one of my favorites.

My radio notifies me when songs are on by my favorite artists and I flipped over to Another Old Lang Syne the other day. I got as far as "and I touched her on the sleeve" It felt like I got the wind knocked out of me. I couldn't breath. My chest felt tight. I flipped back to Sports talk radio as quickly as I turned over.

I have read triggers on her before and found them kind of silly. This is as silly as any other trigger I've dismissed, but it was very real.

I hate that this has taken something away from me that I once enjoyed. I hope with time this goes away. There is only one thing to say about it and it isn't very eloquent and that is; this sucks!


me: BH 35
Her: WW 28

Married 4 years. Dating 8. Living together 7.

If a man took his time on earth
to prove be for he died
what on man's life could be worth
I wonder what would happen to the world

- Harry Chapin


Posts: 543 | Registered: Mar 2014 | From: California
Wodnships
42750
Member # 42750
Default  Posted: 9:12 PM, March 23rd (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Correction Same old Lang Syne. not another..


me: BH 35
Her: WW 28

Married 4 years. Dating 8. Living together 7.

If a man took his time on earth
to prove be for he died
what on man's life could be worth
I wonder what would happen to the world

- Harry Chapin


Posts: 543 | Registered: Mar 2014 | From: California
Skan
♀ 35812
Member # 35812
Default  Posted: 3:49 PM, March 24th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Hang in there. A lot of songs triggered me, at first. There's one that the Dixie Chicks sing that has to do with a soldier writing to a young girl who never comes back from the war. I started sobbing so hysterically the first time I heard it after DDay, that I couldn't breathe and my FWH thought that I was having a complete mental breakdown. Heard it a few days ago and just enjoyed it.

I think that if you can expose yourself, bit by bit, to these things that you find trigger you, you can reclaim them. Kind of like trying to go into the ocean when you're so badly sunburned that you're raw. You just physically can't do it because of the pain. But as your skin starts to heal and scab over, you're able to go back in again.


Imagine a ship trying to set sail while towing an anchor. Cutting free is not a gift to the anchor. You must release that burden, not because the anchor is worthy, but because the ship is.

D-Day, June 10, 2012



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