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Wodnships posted 3/23/2014 20:35 PM

The cheese love songs not withstanding I've always been a Dan Fogelberg fan. Leader of the band, Part of the Plan, etc are great songs. Another Old Lang Syne has always been one of my favorites.

My radio notifies me when songs are on by my favorite artists and I flipped over to Another Old Lang Syne the other day. I got as far as "and I touched her on the sleeve" It felt like I got the wind knocked out of me. I couldn't breath. My chest felt tight. I flipped back to Sports talk radio as quickly as I turned over.

I have read triggers on her before and found them kind of silly. This is as silly as any other trigger I've dismissed, but it was very real.

I hate that this has taken something away from me that I once enjoyed. I hope with time this goes away. There is only one thing to say about it and it isn't very eloquent and that is; this sucks!

Wodnships posted 3/23/2014 21:12 PM

Correction Same old Lang Syne. not another..

Skan posted 3/24/2014 15:49 PM

Hang in there. A lot of songs triggered me, at first. There's one that the Dixie Chicks sing that has to do with a soldier writing to a young girl who never comes back from the war. I started sobbing so hysterically the first time I heard it after DDay, that I couldn't breathe and my FWH thought that I was having a complete mental breakdown. Heard it a few days ago and just enjoyed it.

I think that if you can expose yourself, bit by bit, to these things that you find trigger you, you can reclaim them. Kind of like trying to go into the ocean when you're so badly sunburned that you're raw. You just physically can't do it because of the pain. But as your skin starts to heal and scab over, you're able to go back in again.