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User Topic: A tiny good moment
♀ 38089
Member # 38089
Default  Posted: 8:49 AM, March 24th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My WH and I were watching a tv show last night. And on the show there was a married man who was kissed by another woman (she was trying to convince him to sleep with her). The married man stopped the woman from kissing him and said, "Im sorry I cant do this, I love my wife".

My WH grabbed my hand and said to me, "I wish I would have said that". And to which I replied, "I wish you would have said that too".

He then hugs me and says to me, "I am SO sorry...I love you".

And after he put is head on my shoulder and was holding me tight.

My WH has not been the model, remorseful WH. He has given me complete transparency, he still get defensive and still tries to blame shift occasionally, but this moment he seemed remorseful.

It made me happy and sad.

BS(Me) - 32
WS(HUbbie) - 40
OW - 44 (a ugly, old, white trash horse faced Coworker)
Affair was 2 months long
3 kids - 5yr old, and twins 8 months
Dday - 12/25/12 (lots of signs before I should have seen)

Posts: 598 | Registered: Jan 2013
♂ 33699
Member # 33699
Default  Posted: 8:51 AM, March 24th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Well I hope this can be the start of a new chance for the two of you to move forward together and get through this mess.

"Strength does not come from physical capacity. It comes from an indominable will" - Mahatma Gandi

"Courage is being scared to death and saddling up anyway." - Aubrie

Posts: 3968 | Registered: Oct 2011 | From: Georgia
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Member # 14866
Default  Posted: 8:52 AM, March 24th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

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Evil  Posted: 9:00 AM, March 24th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

A precious moment. Wishing you many more.

Me: BS 61
WH: 61
Married 40 years
Together more than 40
Porn use known since 2005
DDay: 11.24.12 - found emails to prostitute,
Disclosure: TT for months. Still not sure whether I have it all.
DDay 2: 2.20 2013 phone, txt to same prostitute found

Posts: 196 | Registered: Dec 2013
♀ 42092
Member # 42092
Default  Posted: 9:06 AM, March 24th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm glad he was able to give you this small bit of peace. Even though the sadness stays at least he was willing to be with you in acknowledging and trying to repair it.

Sit. Feast on your life.

Posts: 4324 | Registered: Jan 2014 | From: NYC
♀ 37154
Member # 37154
Default  Posted: 9:09 AM, March 24th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Good for you both.

Dday -9/23/2012

Posts: 2226 | Registered: Oct 2012 | From: northeast
♀ 35812
Member # 35812
Default  Posted: 3:53 PM, March 24th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I think that I know the show that you saw, and my FWH didn't say a word. Just reached out for my hand and squeezed it.

I'm so glad that you two had a good moment!

Imagine a ship trying to set sail while towing an anchor. Cutting free is not a gift to the anchor. You must release that burden, not because the anchor is worthy, but because the ship is.

D-Day, June 10, 2012

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