My WH and I were watching a tv show last night. And on the show there was a married man who was kissed by another woman (she was trying to convince him to sleep with her). The married man stopped the woman from kissing him and said, "Im sorry I cant do this, I love my wife".
My WH grabbed my hand and said to me, "I wish I would have said that". And to which I replied, "I wish you would have said that too".
He then hugs me and says to me, "I am SO sorry...I love you".
And after he put is head on my shoulder and was holding me tight.
My WH has not been the model, remorseful WH. He has given me complete transparency, he still get defensive and still tries to blame shift occasionally, but this moment he seemed remorseful.
It made me happy and sad.