Iím very much this way, always thinking I could, or should, be doing better in, well, pretty much every regard. It gets to be oppressive and self-defeating.
I recently had a discussion with someone and they brought up values vs. intentions; we might all want a cleaner house, but if we canít make it happen on a regular and consistent basis, itís probably more of an intention than a value.
Now I think maybe I need to narrow my focus, let go of some of the intentions, appreciate how far Iíve come in things I value.
Relationships: friends, family, significant other; a little effort goes a long way, itís okay to let go of some expectations
Work-life balance: doing pretty well here
Self-improvement: always in progress
New experiences: I have to let some old things go for this, I need to be okay with that
Healthy living: Iím healthy enough that it isnít holding me back
Things that donít quite make the value cut that I beat myself up over; a spotless/bigger home, more money to save, donate and spend, a more prestigious career, pursuit of advanced degrees, a constant productive utilization of time, learning, creating, and improving on any number of interests past or present. If I truly wanted these things I would make them happen, until then Iím going to let up on them.