Topic: New Home New Beginning
Member # 30346
| Posted: 4:11 PM, March 24th (Monday), 2014|
Well, I stood in my new house today, soaking it all in.
When I left ex, I essentially threw a dart and landed. Packed up the kids and left, found a cute little house and poured my heart into it. Ex had to co-sign the loan as I had no income. In less than 3 years, I made $30K on this house with all of the upgrades and design I put into it.
Over Christmas, bored, I went online and found a house in my 'hood with a one car garage (I currently have no garage) and on a culdesaq. I went to look at it and fell in serious "like". The sun in this new house is beautiful. Good bones.
I put my current house on the market, it sold in 6 days.
Today, I closed on my very first house….alone. This is MY house. I wasn't pressured to buy it. I simply did this because I wanted to, it makes sense for my kids and my place in life.
For some reason, this feels so much better. I am moving for happy reasons, not encumbered with the "I'm getting a divorce" strings that the first move gave me.
This is MY house. *I* bought it without a co-signer. MINE. I had the idea, I found it, I bought it.
The next couple of days will be hellish with the move, but I have my Mom helping me a little.
So, single Mom, moving, two special needs kids and in a hellish International Law grad school compressed class.
But, somehow…I just do all of this with little fanfare or complaint. I just do. Former New Guy kept saying, "How do you do all of this? You don't even seem stressed??" I dunno. I think I've had so much stress for so long….I just do.
I refuse to let fear drive me. If I want to do something…I just do.
Cheers to a NEW New Beginning.
me...BS, 44 years old, 2 small kids
WS, 41, multiple gay affairs
M 15 years, together 17
Posts: 4427 | Registered: Dec 2010 | From: South
Member # 33226
| Posted: 4:14 PM, March 24th (Monday), 2014|
Congratulations, cmego! What a fabulous feeling that must be.
Wishing you endless days of joy in YOUR home.
You can call me NIK
“The most difficult times for many of us are the ones we give ourselves.”
― Pema Chödrön
Posts: 28277 | Registered: Aug 2011
Member # 32616
| Posted: 4:29 PM, March 24th (Monday), 2014|
Congratulations on the new home. You're an inspiration
“Happiness cannot be pursued; it must ensue.” ― Viktor E. Frankl, Man's Search for Meaning
Posts: 3621 | Registered: Jun 2011 | From: The Valley of the Sun
Member # 3903
| Posted: 5:09 PM, March 24th (Monday), 2014|
Awesome! You rock!
I remember driving my little car 4 miles down the road to my new home with 2 moving vans following me. I felt so small and scared but empowered at the same time.
This is a wonderful new beginning for you. You deserve a round of applause
There is a wonderful life on the other side of hell.
Posts: 1794 | Registered: Mar 2004
Member # 20150
| Posted: 7:57 PM, March 24th (Monday), 2014|
As someone who has moved five times in as many years, I get it.
DDay: June 15, 2008
Mistakenly married Mr. Superfreak
20 years of OWs, WTF?
Divorced Dec 26, 2011
"Life is a shipwreck, but we must not forget
to sing in the lifeboats". -- Voltaire
Posts: 18100 | Registered: Jul 2008 | From: Canada
Member # 22870
| Posted: 8:03 PM, March 24th (Monday), 2014|
You can stuff your sorries in a sack, mister. -George Costanza
There is a special place in hell for women who don't help other women. - Madeleine Albright
Posts: 7983 | Registered: Feb 2009 | From: Western PA
Member # 42092
| Posted: 8:58 PM, March 24th (Monday), 2014|
Cmego--I am in awe of you!!!
Sit. Feast on your life.
Posts: 4280 | Registered: Jan 2014 | From: NYC
Member # 19946
| Posted: 9:40 PM, March 24th (Monday), 2014|
You are an inspiration!
Congratulations on your new home!
BS, now age 54, d-day 6-2-08, divorced after 17 years M and 20 together. In some ways I have not 'gotten over it'. But I am resilient and have created a good life where I am mostly happy.
Posts: 6080 | Registered: Jun 2008 | From: Rural California
Member # 36445
| Posted: 6:19 AM, March 25th (Tuesday), 2014|
Hope you and your kiddos have a wonderful life full of joy in your new home.
Best thing I gained in my divorce - my freedom.
Posts: 1451 | Registered: Aug 2012 | From: Australia
Member # 33882
| Posted: 7:59 AM, March 25th (Tuesday), 2014|
Congrats on your home!!!!!!
him (NPD Ex)
"Diamonds aren't a girl's best friend, freedom is."
Posts: 2641 | Registered: Nov 2011 | From: MA
Member # 15584
| Posted: 8:04 AM, March 25th (Tuesday), 2014|
Congratulations cmego!!! This is awesome!
Failure is success if we learn from it.
Posts: 4281 | Registered: Aug 2007 | From: michigan
Member # 32258
| Posted: 10:46 AM, March 25th (Tuesday), 2014|
BH = Me
The first true sense of calm I felt in YEARS was when I filed for D...
Divorced 9/2/14 and loving life!
Posts: 1990 | Registered: May 2011 | From: VA
Member # 30997
| Posted: 11:22 AM, March 25th (Tuesday), 2014|
fantastic cmego - enjoy the new place...
Posts: 879 | Registered: Jan 2011
Member # 33699
| Posted: 1:59 PM, March 25th (Tuesday), 2014|
Congratulations on the new house. Best wishes that you find it full of happiness and love.
"Strength does not come from physical capacity. It comes from an indominable will" - Mahatma Gandi
"Courage is being scared to death and saddling up anyway." - Aubrie
Posts: 3664 | Registered: Oct 2011 | From: Georgia
Member # 31468
| Posted: 7:36 PM, March 25th (Tuesday), 2014|
Congrats cmego! You are inspiring. I moved into my new house 18 months ago and I still have so much to do!
Can't wait to hear the progress and best of luck w the move. If I were closer I would love to help!
Status: D 2011
Above all, be the heroine, not the victim. - Nora Ephron
It is our choices...that show what we truly are, far more than our abilities.
- J. K. Rowling
Posts: 4836 | Registered: Mar 2011
Member # 8923
| Posted: 5:00 PM, March 26th (Wednesday), 2014|
YEY!!!!!!!! Good beginnings to you, and good middle part and so on and so forth! Are you planning on any future house flipping? It sounds as if you have quite a bit of skill at it.
In the depths of winter I finally learned there was in me an invincible summer..Albert Camus
***Used to be hit-by-a-train***
Posts: 2324 | Registered: Nov 2005 | From: USA
Member # 39193
| Posted: 5:51 PM, March 26th (Wednesday), 2014|
What an awesome post!!!
Me: Enjoying life
Him: Someone else's problem
Follow your heart, but take your brain with you. ~ Alfred Adler
Letting go of the outcome is about the most empowering thing you can do for yourself. ~ LosferWords
Posts: 1216 | Registered: May 2013 | From: Oregon
Member # 33606
| Posted: 11:15 PM, March 26th (Wednesday), 2014|
(And yes, my all caps meaning I'm yelling!)
Posts: 1767 | Registered: Oct 2011
Member # 34722
| Posted: 11:38 PM, March 26th (Wednesday), 2014|
Finding what life could have been....... Why didn't I see it?
Posts: 2742 | Registered: Feb 2012 | From: the Other Side
Member # 32558
| Posted: 4:52 AM, March 27th (Thursday), 2014|
love this post!
Yes, what is it with men who seemed "threatened" by our ability to cope with life?? I just don't get it? I've been on plenty of dates, and the positive response I give to what happened to me seems to baffle them…they just can't understand why I'm not a crumbling mess….maybe that's where we go wrong?? Do men want to "save" us???
Sorry to hijack your thread….but the response from your XSO interested me.
"Sometimes on the way to the dream, you get a lost and find a better one"
Divorcing - at last!
Posts: 94 | Registered: Jun 2011 | From: Uk
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