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cmego (original poster member #30346) posted at 10:11 PM on Monday, March 24th, 2014
Well, I stood in my new house today, soaking it all in.
When I left ex, I essentially threw a dart and landed. Packed up the kids and left, found a cute little house and poured my heart into it. Ex had to co-sign the loan as I had no income. In less than 3 years, I made $30K on this house with all of the upgrades and design I put into it.
Over Christmas, bored, I went online and found a house in my 'hood with a one car garage (I currently have no garage) and on a culdesaq. I went to look at it and fell in serious "like". The sun in this new house is beautiful. Good bones.
I put my current house on the market, it sold in 6 days.
Today, I closed on my very first house….alone. This is MY house. I wasn't pressured to buy it. I simply did this because I wanted to, it makes sense for my kids and my place in life.
For some reason, this feels so much better. I am moving for happy reasons, not encumbered with the "I'm getting a divorce" strings that the first move gave me.
This is MY house. *I* bought it without a co-signer. MINE. I had the idea, I found it, I bought it.
The next couple of days will be hellish with the move, but I have my Mom helping me a little.
So, single Mom, moving, two special needs kids and in a hellish International Law grad school compressed class.
But, somehow…I just do all of this with little fanfare or complaint. I just do. Former New Guy kept saying, "How do you do all of this? You don't even seem stressed??" I dunno. I think I've had so much stress for so long….I just do.
I refuse to let fear drive me. If I want to do something…I just do.
Cheers to a NEW New Beginning.
me...BS, 46 years old.
Divorced
nowiknow23 ( member #33226) posted at 10:14 PM on Monday, March 24th, 2014
Congratulations, cmego! What a fabulous feeling that must be.
Wishing you endless days of joy in YOUR home. 
You can call me NIK
And never grow a wishbone, daughter, where your backbone ought to be.
― Sarah McMane
Crescita ( member #32616) posted at 10:29 PM on Monday, March 24th, 2014
Congratulations on the new home. You're an inspiration 
“Happiness cannot be pursued; it must ensue.” ― Viktor E. Frankl, Man's Search for Meaning
risingfromashes ( member #3903) posted at 11:09 PM on Monday, March 24th, 2014
Awesome! You rock!
I remember driving my little car 4 miles down the road to my new home with 2 moving vans following me. I felt so small and scared but empowered at the same time.
This is a wonderful new beginning for you. You deserve a round of applause
FaithFool ( member #20150) posted at 1:57 AM on Tuesday, March 25th, 2014
As someone who has moved five times in as many years, I get it.
DDay: June 15, 2008
Mistakenly married Mr. Superfreak
20 years of OWs, WTF?
Divorced Dec 26, 2011
"Life is a shipwreck, but we must not forget
to sing in the lifeboats". -- Voltaire
Williesmom ( member #22870) posted at 2:03 AM on Tuesday, March 25th, 2014
You can stuff your sorries in a sack, mister. -George Costanza
There is a special place in hell for women who don't help other women. - Madeleine Albright
norabird ( member #42092) posted at 2:58 AM on Tuesday, March 25th, 2014
Cmego--I am in awe of you!!!
InnerLight ( member #19946) posted at 3:40 AM on Tuesday, March 25th, 2014
You are an inspiration!
Congratulations on your new home!
BS, 64 yearsD-day 6-2-08D after 20 years together
The journey from Armageddon to Amazing Life happens one step at a time. Don't ever give up!
Bluebird26 ( member #36445) posted at 12:19 PM on Tuesday, March 25th, 2014
Congrats!
Hope you and your kiddos have a wonderful life full of joy in your new home.
Me: BW
Best thing I gained in my divorce - my freedom.
Life's good.
nutmegkitty ( member #33882) posted at 1:59 PM on Tuesday, March 25th, 2014
Congrats on your home!!!!!!
Me - happy!
2 DDs
Very happily divorced from an NPD since 2013.
little turtle ( member #15584) posted at 2:04 PM on Tuesday, March 25th, 2014
Congratulations cmego!!! This is awesome!
Failure is success if we learn from it.
7yrsflushed ( member #32258) posted at 4:46 PM on Tuesday, March 25th, 2014
Congrats!
D-day 5/24/11
BH = Me
2 children
The first true sense of calm I felt in YEARS was when I filed for D...
Divorced 9/2/14 and loving life!
velveteer ( member #30997) posted at 5:22 PM on Tuesday, March 25th, 2014
fantastic cmego - enjoy the new place...
gahurts ( member #33699) posted at 7:59 PM on Tuesday, March 25th, 2014
Congratulations on the new house. Best wishes that you find it full of happiness and love.
"Strength does not come from physical capacity. It comes from an indominable will" - Mahatma Gandi
"Courage is being scared to death and saddling up anyway." - Aubrie
persevere ( member #31468) posted at 1:36 AM on Wednesday, March 26th, 2014
Congrats cmego! You are inspiring. I moved into my new house 18 months ago and I still have so much to do!
Can't wait to hear the progress and best of luck w the move. If I were closer I would love to help!
DDay:2011
Status: D 2011
Remarried to a kind and wonderful man - 2017
Above all, be the heroine, not the victim. - Nora Ephron
It is our choices...that show what we truly are, far more than our abilities.
- J. K.
SoHappyNow ( member #8923) posted at 11:00 PM on Wednesday, March 26th, 2014
YEY!!!!!!!! Good beginnings to you, and good middle part and so on and so forth! Are you planning on any future house flipping? It sounds as if you have quite a bit of skill at it.
In the depths of winter I finally learned there was in me an invincible summer..Albert Camus--------73 now. Dday #1 was 11/11/05 ***Used to be hit-by-a-train*** Widowed, then VERY happily remarried 2/14/14
gypsybird87 ( member #39193) posted at 11:51 PM on Wednesday, March 26th, 2014
What an awesome post!!!
Congrats!!!! 
Me: Enjoying life
Him: Someone else's problem
Follow your heart, but take your brain with you. ~ Alfred Adler
Letting go of the outcome is about the most empowering thing you can do for yourself. ~ LosferWords
ChoosingHope ( member #33606) posted at 5:15 AM on Thursday, March 27th, 2014
YAY!, CMEGO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
(And yes, my all caps meaning I'm yelling!)
-Hope
thebighurt ( member #34722) posted at 5:38 AM on Thursday, March 27th, 2014
Finding what life could have been....... Why didn't I see it?
dignityintact ( member #32558) posted at 10:52 AM on Thursday, March 27th, 2014
love this post!
Yes, what is it with men who seemed "threatened" by our ability to cope with life?? I just don't get it? I've been on plenty of dates, and the positive response I give to what happened to me seems to baffle them…they just can't understand why I'm not a crumbling mess….maybe that's where we go wrong?? Do men want to "save" us???
Sorry to hijack your thread….but the response from your XSO interested me.
"Sometimes on the way to the dream, you get a lost and find a better one"
Divorcing - at last!
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