supposedly my WH had only EA with a woman from work.
I found out by being snoopy trying to find out who he was texting around the holidays, and much to my surprise, I found 1000's of texts to a -- it wasn't even a number, it was her email---
he swore and swore and swore it wasn't physical. I couldn't find any indication that it was, no proof at all, and I searched and snooped like a fiend.
we put ourselves back together, or so I thought.
last week he lied to me, which brought out all the feelings of "if he could lie about that.... you know how it goes....
so I got to snooping again, and sometimes you know how those random thoughts just pop in your head??
he said, at the time, that he just was talking to her about his impending re-diagnosis of cancer, and it all took off from there-- that she had offered him empathy, and it developed into a friendship, blech.... but he's never been motivated by an emotional attachment, it's always be sex with him. and that's why it hurt me so much then, we had just finally reached a point in our marriage and relationship that I felt supported emotionally, and connected emotionally.
so I guess that's why I had such a hard time believing it wasn't physical............ and I think now I might have "a little bit" of proof.
I found one of those things you can download songs onto in one of his drawers...
here's a partial list of what's on there
--- quite a few healing songs, meaning the kind of stuff you hear when getting a massage.
"Why can't you see" Jolo Kuo
Let's make Love
I need you
Only you can love me
Me and You
I like it
Can't take my eyes off of you
need you now
How do I live without you
Nothing like this
I won't let go
that's a partial list....... says it was formatted in June, 2012
supposedly he went NC in November 2011
please tell me what you think. and how soon to confront?? I don't know if I can find anything else, and to be honest, I'm not real good at keeping my mouth shut.