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User Topic: why cant he just stop!?
Member # 42768
Default  Posted: 9:04 PM, March 24th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

WS has gone from excited I found out about his EAs and saying he was thrilled to be done with me. To saying he doesn't want a divorce and trying to manipulate me into staying. He apologizes constantly and says he still loves me and no one else. It enrages me because I KNOW he has been talking to old girlfriends in the last week, because I have seen proof. Everytime he apologizes I ask how can he be sorry when he is still lying. I ask again for the whole truth and he says he told me everything. What the hell is his problem and how do I keep my distance from his little roller coaster while I'm still having to live in the same house?

Posts: 43 | Registered: Mar 2014
Member # 42768
Default  Posted: 9:26 PM, March 24th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I felt so good today. Until he sucked me into this conversation about how sorry he is and how he really doesn't want a divorce. Now I'm back to sad and confused :(

Posts: 43 | Registered: Mar 2014
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Member # 19911
Default  Posted: 9:37 PM, March 24th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Don't give him the opportunity to suck you in; distance yourself physically (if not emotionally, that will hopefully come with time and enough physical separation).

Try to create your own space in the house you have to share. Set yourself up in the spare bedroom? Get a lock on the door. Leave the house well before him, or well after him. Demand that he respect your wishes regarding interaction.


Me: The faithful one
Him: WS
4 incredible, grown kids
Married 30 years, together 38
D-Day: April 1, 2006 (yep, April Fool's Day...)
Aaaaaas Yoooouuu Wiiiiiish...

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Default  Posted: 3:07 AM, March 25th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

If you aren't doing it yet, I'd suggest doing a hard 180. More info about the 180 can be found in the clickable link to The Healing Library, off to the left of the screen.
Take care of yourself!

Me: deliberately celibate senior
Him: fat, bald older-than-me senior citizen, 7 year LTA w/a pro$titute
Married since 1980, no children (thankful for that now)
DDay: Feb. 25, 2013
Trickle Truth/DDays: Sept 10, 11, 13, 15 (2013)

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