16months since real D-day and we are finally starting MC.
I am hoping this will make me feel better about the extra stuff he didn't choose to do for us.
Like IC, reading, posting...etc.
Maybe she can help deal with whether it is just who he is....or he doesn't want to be taken out of his comfort zone...or he really doesn't care that much to put in the extra effort short of self-reflection and promises.
I get you...do the damn extra work on your own without me prompting you!!!
For once in this whole mess, take the lead in a beneficial way.
The sad thing...for me...it just makes things worse. Resentment builds while I do all the questioning and hard work. All the while hearing, but "I am being a better man. I am still here, answering questions. I didn't leave. I am putting up with all this craziness (with remorse)."
I sure hope MC helps me with these things. Or the fall-out after the A is what will be the real reason I leave.