thank you for this wonderful gift. I am very happy...I couldn't wait to try it out. I have a lot of work to do. I need more practice and patience.
You are so amazing!!! You are the best present ever. Merry Christmas to you/us! <3 twatwaffle.
I'm surprisingly calm. Haven't confronted. Gonna sleep on it. I tool the note (he SAVED it, in his wallet) and hid it between my phone/phone case. Meeting friend for dinner now.
Oh, we have a 4 year old. She's the reason I hung on for so long. Hoping.
BS me 41
WH 42 his whore was my friend
Married 24 years
Finally finding R?
3 kids 3 grand kids
DDay 1 -Jan 2 2014
DDay 2 -Feb 20 2014 A went underground fo
That's the hardest part. Our daughter. Daddy's girl.
Your daughter is so young that she will adjust. It will be hard of course, I know she will be impacted, but she won't have many memories once she's older of life pre-co-parenting. And you can stand by her in this time and be her rock. I hope you find a great lawyer to get the best situation for you all.
Sending peace and strength.
"Love is not love. Which alters when it alteration finds, Or bends with the remover to remove..."
You aren't losing love here - he doesn't know what love is... but someone out there does....
"Your value doesn't decrease based on someone's inability to see your worth." -Unknown Wise Person
Do not give him the original letter. Make a copy.
He will destroy it and tell family and friends you are crazy and there was no letter.
Oh, is the OW married?
Out her if she is.
You have nothing to regret in trying to save your marriage. You acted honerably and in fulfillment to the vows you made. Your H is the fault here. How a spouse can be so selfish and sacrifice their family is beyond my understanding. I think that is why my own WW betrayal is so crushing because I could never even imagine hurting her or my children this way.
You keep us posted. We are all pulling for you.
When I was pregnant with our daughter, he cheated on me and left me on his own will. He had just gotten back from Iraq and claimd PTSD and that he just needed space. I found out shortly before out daughters birth that there was another woman for the past 6 months. We separated, reconciled, then separated again when he started another relationship with another woman. When our daughter was 1, I divorced him. A couple of months later, he showed up on my door step, crying practically, saying he made a huge mistake and he wanted a second chance. I gave in because of our duaghter. She deserved it. and if I didnt, i would have always wondered "what if". So, the first few weeks were bliss, we did marriage counseling, he was the ideal husband/boyfriend. Then, he texted me one more, a text htat did not make sense. Something along the lines of "I bet your picture is cuter with your messy hair". I immediatly logged in to his phone acct, and found a number that he was texting minutes before texting that to me. So I asked him what he was talkinga bout, and he said he was half asleep and must have texted me as part of his dream. Stupid me, I was determined to make this work, so I just shrugged it off. I did call the number and it was a female.
There were other instances too. Last may, I caught him text a female. She was talking about his cute butt, he was eating it up, they would meet for "study dates", I confronted him, and he denied anything happened, but me threatening to leave opened his eyes to what he has, blah blah blah. Again, I stayed. This girl that left teh note. I've ALWAYS had suspicions about her. He is in Nursing school. He doesn't work. the Militayr pays him to go to school. HE met her in nursing school. I've caught him texting her things like "Hey beautiful, sorry I didn't text back, I had my duaghter this weekend", like he had VISITATION with his daughter, not that he lives with her. In the back of my mind, I've always been suspeicious about her. I just so badly wanted this to work. for my duaghter. and because I just don't want to start all over.
He loses his military pay next month. I work a fulltime job and bring in $50k, so I AM OK financially. I DO NOT need him, HE NEEDS ME. and he pulls this shit. I have decided to start sleeping in my daughters room unitl our lease is up (May). I signed for a newer, nicer apartment yesterday, so in May, my daughter and I are moving. I donm't know where he is going. I will give him half of savings (thought a lot of you may disagree), because I can't just leave him homeless. Half of the savings is his anyways, from student loan refunds. I will give him that in May and wish him luck, bcause at the end of the day, we still have to be amicable and coparent together for the next 14 years. So, as nice as I may be, and hate it, I am doing this to benefit my daughter. She does not need to see us fighting, hating each other, or feel tension when we are near each other. ONce I give him the money and he moves out, he's on his own. I will not hold his hand and help him anymore.
I'm just shaking. I still haven't cried. I'm just exhausted.
***sorry for the spelling errors. I just don't even care today....
we picked up my stepson on the 22nd from the airport. my ex was home, had not disappeared the entire time my stepson was here. So clearly, he was thinking about her christmas gift before he was thinking about mine.
[This message edited by Foolme1 at 9:29 AM, March 26th (Wednesday)]
You have nothing to regret in trying to save your marriage. You acted honerably and in fulfillment to the vows you made.
I'm glad you found a better apartment already for you and your DD. You will get through this and be stronger when you break free from his destruction. You sound like a terrific person and I know you'll have a better life in the future. Keep on keeping on!
him: what's going on with you? You didn't say anything before you left yesterday and today
I've always had that nagging feeling that you just can't be trusted. this entire relationship, youve proven time and time again that you just cannot be trusted. From female A, female B, texts that you've accidently sent me, among others. i turned the other cheek hoping and praying that things would change. that you COULD be faithful. Then I received enough evidence to prove that yes, I was right. Your a liar and a cheater. I'm exhausted. And I'm done. I'm a GOOD woman. I have done so much for you. Held your hand through so much. I wasn't perfect, but I tried to be a good woman to you. Its never enough and I'm done struggling to be "enough". I'm done with a relationship that I know I will never trust. this is not what I want for my life, and its not what I want for dd. we've essentially turned in to my parents. You, cheating, flirting, lying and me, turning the other cheek, hoping and praying for a change that will never come. So that's "whats wrong" with me. trying to figure out how to lessen the blow to our sweet baby girl, who didn't deserve this. Who deserved a faithful daddy. That's my problem.