It's almost been 3 years since I found sexually inappropriate texts on my husbands phone and I still can't get over it. At first, he said they were jokes and then never truly gave me an explanation nor do I think I got the whole story. Meanwhile i had just given birth to our first child. Thus, I don't think I've ever quite healed. We tried therapy, separately but it didn't last very long and we eventually were starting to heal. Fast forward to a few days ago we are cleaning out our drawers and an old phone was found. The phone included the old texts which sent me into a rage again. He's been remorseful and has tried and promises he only loves me. My heart was broken and is now guarded, seemingly always suspicious and I hate to be and live like that. He asked if I wanted to stay married and I said I don't know I don't think so. We now have two young boys (4 years & 2 months). I know I can't know if he will hurt me in the future but do I want to be this way for the rest of my life. I feel indifferent to him at times and know its not right but feel like he made me this way. I trusted him completely last time and never suspected a thing which is another reason ive been on guard. I'm broken and I don't know what to do. How does one "get over it?"
[This message edited by hurt0819 at 9:12 AM, March 26th (Wednesday)]