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jo2love (original poster member #31528) posted at 2:54 PM on Thursday, March 27th, 2014
A few years ago, I ended R with wxbf. He wasn't giving me what I needed to hear. That night seems so long ago. I remember the gut wrenching pain I was in that night, the loving support of members here, the absurdity when he offered to show up at my place naked "if it would make me feel better". 
The chorus of members saying, "wth" and "what a douche", now makes me laugh. Love SI support!
For a longtime, I wasn't ready to date. It was more important for me to focus on my healing. When guys would ask me out, I would get an anxiety attack and be nauseous. Now? The thought of dating doesn't give me an anxiety attack and I don't feel like I am going to throw up. I'm ready to put myself out there again. Nice and slow. No rushing into anything. Just believing in fate. If I'm meant to be with someone, it will happen when the time is right. 
Happy Thursday!
little turtle ( member #15584) posted at 3:01 PM on Thursday, March 27th, 2014
This is great!!
Failure is success if we learn from it.
nowiknow23 ( member #33226) posted at 3:11 PM on Thursday, March 27th, 2014
You can call me NIK
And never grow a wishbone, daughter, where your backbone ought to be.
― Sarah McMane
Faithful w/Love ( member #33128) posted at 3:17 PM on Thursday, March 27th, 2014
BS(ME)41 WH(HIM)38
DD 21 and DS 16
Separated Aug 2012
Moved back home Oct 31 2013
Separated again June 2014. Heading toward divorce.
False R. Still Lying.
"You never know how strong you are until being strong is all you have left"
MovingUpward ( member #14866) posted at 3:17 PM on Thursday, March 27th, 2014
norabird ( member #42092) posted at 4:52 PM on Thursday, March 27th, 2014
What a great attitude! This gives me so much hope.
Good luck out there! 
BAB61 ( member #41181) posted at 5:05 PM on Thursday, March 27th, 2014
Boss A** B*tch
BS/52 Me, STBXpos/56, dd's 16&14
1st D-day 10/19/2013 EA/PA
2nd D-day 12/7/2013 LTA/Rendezvous
S 12/7/2013 No-fault state, 6 mo S, counting down the days.
Snapdragon ( member #4286) posted at 5:26 PM on Thursday, March 27th, 2014
Not anxiously vomiting is a nice attribute in a date. 
Sounds like you have a good plan going here. Driving the sedan of dating, not the hot rod that spins off the road into a fiery crash. Fire is bad.
Divorced - recovered and hoping to help.
"We're not broken, just bent, and we can learn to love again" ~Pink
itainteasy ( member #31094) posted at 5:29 PM on Thursday, March 27th, 2014
Jrazz ( member #31349) posted at 5:31 PM on Thursday, March 27th, 2014
Love it.
(((Jo)))
"Don't give up, the beginning is always the hardest." - Deeply Scared's mom
nutmegkitty ( member #33882) posted at 5:50 PM on Thursday, March 27th, 2014
Me - happy!
2 DDs
Very happily divorced from an NPD since 2013.
jo2love (original poster member #31528) posted at 6:33 PM on Thursday, March 27th, 2014
Not anxiously vomiting is a nice attribute in a date.
Omg. You made me laugh & snort! Yep that's attractive.
better4me ( member #30341) posted at 6:51 PM on Thursday, March 27th, 2014
I love the heading for this. Almost as if feeling ready to date was something that you came across while cleaning up your desk. "Well look at that, didn't even realize I had misplaced that ready to date thing. Huh, guess I might as well dust it off and see if it still works..."
DDay 11/17/2010 BW:58
Happily remarried!
Sad in AZ ( member #24239) posted at 8:17 PM on Thursday, March 27th, 2014
Spring is in the air 
You are important and you matter. Your feelings matter. Your voice matters. Your story matters. Your life matters. Always.
Me: FBS (no longer betrayed nor a spouse)-63
D-day: 2007 (two years before finding SI)
S: 6/2010; D: 3/2011
tryingagain74 ( member #33698) posted at 8:32 PM on Thursday, March 27th, 2014
Yay, jo!
FBS; now happily liberated!
Two DS and One DD
It matters not how strait the gate,/How charged with punishments the scroll./I am the master of my fate:/I am the captain of my soul.--"Invictus," William Ernest Henley
Threnody ( member #1558) posted at 10:04 PM on Thursday, March 27th, 2014
Does this mean *I* can show up at your house naked now? I've been holding off until you were ready.
“If you don't like my opinion of you, you can always improve.” ~ Ashleigh Brilliant
"Great love requires determination." ~ tryingtwo
"Don't try to win over the haters, you're not the jackass whisperer." ~ Brene Brown
jo2love (original poster member #31528) posted at 10:14 PM on Thursday, March 27th, 2014
LMAO!!!!! @Threnody
caregiver9000 ( member #28622) posted at 10:42 PM on Thursday, March 27th, 2014
ditto, LMAO @ Thren.
I do love this post.
Me: fortysomething, independent, happy,
XH "Stretch" (and Skew!) ;)
two kids, teens. Old enough I am truly NO CONTACT w/ NPD zebraduck
S 5/2010
D 12/2012
risingfromashes ( member #3903) posted at 11:02 PM on Thursday, March 27th, 2014
phmh ( member #34146) posted at 12:04 AM on Friday, March 28th, 2014
This kind of post just makes my day. So glad your healing is progressing so nicely :)
Me: BW, divorced, now fabulous and happy!
Married: 11 years, no kids
Character is destiny
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