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jo2love posted 3/27/2014 08:54 AM

A few years ago, I ended R with wxbf. He wasn't giving me what I needed to hear. That night seems so long ago. I remember the gut wrenching pain I was in that night, the loving support of members here, the absurdity when he offered to show up at my place naked "if it would make me feel better". The chorus of members saying, "wth" and "what a douche", now makes me laugh. Love SI support!

For a longtime, I wasn't ready to date. It was more important for me to focus on my healing. When guys would ask me out, I would get an anxiety attack and be nauseous. Now? The thought of dating doesn't give me an anxiety attack and I don't feel like I am going to throw up. I'm ready to put myself out there again. Nice and slow. No rushing into anything. Just believing in fate. If I'm meant to be with someone, it will happen when the time is right.

Happy Thursday!

little turtle posted 3/27/2014 09:01 AM

This is great!!

nowiknow23 posted 3/27/2014 09:11 AM

Faithful w/Love posted 3/27/2014 09:17 AM

WOOOHOOO.. You GO Jo.

MovingUpward posted 3/27/2014 09:17 AM

norabird posted 3/27/2014 10:52 AM

What a great attitude! This gives me so much hope.

Good luck out there!

BAB61 posted 3/27/2014 11:05 AM

Yay!

Snapdragon posted 3/27/2014 11:26 AM

Not anxiously vomiting is a nice attribute in a date.

Sounds like you have a good plan going here. Driving the sedan of dating, not the hot rod that spins off the road into a fiery crash. Fire is bad.

itainteasy posted 3/27/2014 11:29 AM

Jrazz posted 3/27/2014 11:31 AM

Love it.

(((Jo)))

nutmegkitty posted 3/27/2014 11:50 AM

jo2love posted 3/27/2014 12:33 PM

Not anxiously vomiting is a nice attribute in a date.

Omg. You made me laugh & snort! Yep that's attractive.

better4me posted 3/27/2014 12:51 PM

I love the heading for this. Almost as if feeling ready to date was something that you came across while cleaning up your desk. "Well look at that, didn't even realize I had misplaced that ready to date thing. Huh, guess I might as well dust it off and see if it still works..."

Sad in AZ posted 3/27/2014 14:17 PM

Spring is in the air

tryingagain74 posted 3/27/2014 14:32 PM

Yay, jo!

Threnody posted 3/27/2014 16:04 PM

Does this mean *I* can show up at your house naked now? I've been holding off until you were ready.

jo2love posted 3/27/2014 16:14 PM

LMAO!!!!! @Threnody

caregiver9000 posted 3/27/2014 16:42 PM

ditto, LMAO @ Thren.

I do love this post.

risingfromashes posted 3/27/2014 17:02 PM

phmh posted 3/27/2014 18:04 PM

This kind of post just makes my day. So glad your healing is progressing so nicely :)