I found this on Pinterest and thought this was appropriate for both betrayed spouses and wayward spouses.
"After A While"
After a while
you learn the subtle difference between
Holding a hand and chaining a soul
and you learn love doesn't mean leaning
and company doesn't always mean security.
And you begin to learn that kisses aren't contracts
and presents aren't always promises
and you begin to accept your defeats
with your head up and your eyes ahead
with the grace of a woman,
not the grief of a child.
And you learn
to build all your roads on today
because tomorrow's ground is too
uncertain for plans and futures have a way
of falling down in mid-flight.
After a while you learn
that even sunshine burns if you get too much
So you plant your own garden
and decorate your own soul
instead of waiting
for someone to bring you flowers.
And you learn that you really can endure,
that you really are strong
and you really do have worth
and you learn and you learn
with every good-bye you learn.
M: June 2001
..that feeling you get in your stomach, when you heart's broken. It's like all the butterflies just died.