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confused615 posted 3/27/2014 11:13 AM

I found this on Pinterest and thought this was appropriate for both betrayed spouses and wayward spouses.


"After A While"

After a while
you learn the subtle difference between
Holding a hand and chaining a soul
and you learn love doesn't mean leaning
and company doesn't always mean security.


And you begin to learn that kisses aren't contracts
and presents aren't always promises
and you begin to accept your defeats
with your head up and your eyes ahead
with the grace of a woman,
not the grief of a child.


And you learn
to build all your roads on today
because tomorrow's ground is too
uncertain for plans and futures have a way
of falling down in mid-flight.


After a while you learn
that even sunshine burns if you get too much
So you plant your own garden
and decorate your own soul
instead of waiting
for someone to bring you flowers.


And you learn that you really can endure,
that you really are strong
and you really do have worth
and you learn and you learn
with every good-bye you learn.

itainteasy posted 3/27/2014 11:13 AM

lilacs40 posted 3/27/2014 11:31 AM

This poem helped though my 20's and I guess it's going to help me get through my 40's.

BeyondBreaking posted 3/27/2014 22:25 PM

I love this poem!

"Plant your own garden and decorate your own soul instead of waiting for someone to bring you flowers" was my quote for my senior yearbook in high school. :)

Jrazz posted 3/27/2014 22:29 PM

Wow. That was really cool.

neverdidithink posted 3/28/2014 08:18 AM

This has been hanging above my desk since D1 in 2001 and it still inspires me all these years later.

OnTilt posted 3/28/2014 09:04 AM

I guess it's all in the point of view of the story behind whoever posts this poem.

I have a 'friend' who happens to be an unremoresful WS, and who posted this on her FB wall the day after her BH found out his wife was still 'seeing' the OM of whom she had an LTA with, and when confronted by her BH, announced, for the 2nd time, that she wanted a D, and said she was moving out, for the 2nd time.

So, yeah, meaning can be beautiful or horrible, depending on the spirit in which it was posted. My jaw dropped when I read this on her wall and my heart broke for her BH. :(

confused615 posted 3/28/2014 09:21 AM

I can see this being cruel if an unremorseful WS posted it.

It spoke to me, as a BS. But I thought it also sounded like wayward coming out of the fog and finding remorse.

Im sorry it was used to hurt someone.

My favorite line is the same as yours, BeyondBreaking.

"So you plant your own garden
and decorate your own soul
instead of waiting
for someone to bring you flowers."

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