Cheating Hurt by Infidelity
Betrayal Wayward Donations lying
Welcome

Forums

Guidelines

Find a Local Counselor

The Healing Library

Media

Contact Us
lies
cover
In Association with Amazon.com
Support
Infidelity -
-

SurvivingInfidelity.com Forum Archives

like us on facebook
You are not logged in. Login here or register.
[Register]
Newest Member: Mercedes66 (46046)

User Topic: This moron is texting me from stripper whore's phone
tesla
♀ 34697
Member # 34697
Default  Posted: 4:36 PM, March 27th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

He sent a text a couple of weeks ago from her phone number saying that he lost his phone and that if I needed to get ahold of 'them' that I should use her number.

I'm not too keen on texting her number. I haven't needed to share any info...so no big deal. Plenty of time for him to get a replacement phone.

Today moron texts me from her number that 'I can't pick up Teslet this weekend, can we switch weekends?'

Guidelines say that if he gives notice, that if I'm able, I ought to switch. In this case, I can't give him the weekend he wants but will certainly let him forfeit this weekend...but I really don't want to text her number. So I figured I would just email a response and respond to the text that he can check his email for my response?

This guy is a piece of shit and I've used our text exchanges in the past in court...so I'd really rather communicate with him through a form that is dedicated to him, KWIM?
I thought maybe I'd say something to that effect in the email:


Moron-
Teslet and I are travelling out of town 5 April-12 April for spring break per the text sent on XXX. So that weekend is unavailable for a switch.
I prefer to communicate with you through email until you have your own phone again as I would hate for a misunderstanding to occur.

Fuck off and die,
Tesla

I promise I won't sign off like that, but I think it every time I have to communicate with him.
What think ya'll?


"Thou art the son and heir of a mongrel bitch." --King Lear

Posts: 4835 | Registered: Jan 2012 | From: Indiana
SisterMilkshake
♀ 30024
Member # 30024
Default  Posted: 4:40 PM, March 27th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I think it is perfect, sign off and all.


BW (me) 50ish FWH 50ish
Married 34 years, 3 children
d-day 3/10 LTA (4 yrs./fucking & flirting)

"Oh, why do my actions have consequences?" ~ Homer Simpson
"She knew my one weakness: That I'm weak!" ~ Homer Simpson


Posts: 10101 | Registered: Nov 2010 | From: The Great White North USA
devistatedmom
♀ 24961
Member # 24961
Default  Posted: 4:41 PM, March 27th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I think you also need to state that you are happy to keep Teslet this weekend, but since you can not switch, he will be forfeiting his weekend.

I really, really, really....REALLY think you need to spell that out for him, how it works, or he's going to hound you for weeks.

About the phone? You *know* he can't afford a phone anymore and that's why he doesn't have one, right? Since he's an unemployed idiot that owns a rented house and can't pay CS, but can afford horseback riding lessons...I mean...there's just no cash left for a phone.


BS(me) 46, Two wonderful teens.
He is no longer my best friend. Repeat until it sticks.

WH says marriage is over: May 15, 2009.
EA#2 July 20, 2009. Legally sep: Aug 16, 2009. DIVORCED!!!! Signed Nov 23, final Dec 24, 2010, adultery listed.


Posts: 5633 | Registered: Jul 2009 | From: Canada
ButterflyGirl
♀ 38377
Member # 38377
Default  Posted: 4:56 PM, March 27th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Uh, yeah, no way in fuck I'm texting OW's phone.

I agree to add you will take him. And I would just say, "please confine all communications to email."

Fucking morons. You deserve a medal for dealing with that level of stupid.


xBW~ 35
Two DS~ 7-Eleven
"I've wiped the shit off. It can be wiped off you know." ~ asurvivor

Posts: 2724 | Registered: Feb 2013 | From: Florida, USA
Jrazz
♀ 31349
Member # 31349
Default  Posted: 5:09 PM, March 27th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I feel like his using her phone will be the gateway to her trying to pick teslet up from school or something. I like the email idea. I like the signoff too.


"Welcome the rawness of vulnerability as an opportunity to open." - Pema Chodron

Me: BW 35
Crazz: WH 33
Daughter: 4.5 Going on 16


Posts: 18703 | Registered: Feb 2011 | From: California
thenon-goddess
♀ 31229
Member # 31229
Default  Posted: 5:19 PM, March 27th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I think the e-mail is fine, but personally would not bother with the text saying "check your email." I'd completely refuse to use her phone at all. :)


Status: divorcing - I can see the light at the end of the tunnel!

Posts: 1255 | Registered: Feb 2011
BAB61
♀ 41181
Member # 41181
Default  Posted: 7:11 PM, March 27th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Text back 1x, and 1x only .. "I am blocking this number, as it is NOT your phone. Communicate through e-mail only until you replace your phone. Per my L."


Boss A** B*tch
BS/52 Me, STBXpos/56, dd's 16&14
1st D-day 10/19/2013 EA/PA
2nd D-day 12/7/2013 LTA/Rendezvous
S 12/7/2013 No-fault state, 6 mo S, counting down the days.

Posts: 1271 | Registered: Oct 2013 | From: DE
SBB
♀ 35229
Member # 35229
Default  Posted: 7:56 PM, March 27th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I suggest this.

Per the text sent on XXX Teslet and I are travelling so that weekend is unavailable for a switch.

I will communicate with you through email until you have your own phone again.

Let him keep texting you from her phone and you respond via email.

The sad clown has texted me from OWUmpteens number when he has lost his phone (ironically the first time was just after telling me he was introducing his whore to my girls and just days after he threatened to get an AVO because I called them losers/whores via email - he was clearly hoping I would start harassing her and thereby help his case against me. Never happened. I kept calling them losers/whores whores in emails to him for another few weeks until I got good at NC).

The texts he sent were about goodnight calls to the girls rather than parenting issues. I would not make parenting plans via whores phone. Not because it's whores phone (I don't give a shit anymore) but because I don't trust him as far as I can piss as he would absolutely claim he didn't agree to arrangements made on her phone just to fuck me over.

[This message edited by SBB at 7:58 PM, March 27th (Thursday)]


I may have reached a point where I'd piss on him if he was on fire.... eventually!!

Posts: 5735 | Registered: Apr 2012 | From: Australia
tesla
♀ 34697
Member # 34697
Default  Posted: 8:11 PM, March 27th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I like that, SBB, it's short-plain as fucking daylight--and lays out future expectations of communications. Perfect.

Can you just imagine trying to communicate through her phone about Teslet? Shit, so much would get lost in translation.

Just imagine it, me saying something and stripper whore relaying it to ex-shat, who relays his response to her and she texts me back. I think it would go like this...

Tesla: Teslet is in the ER for a suspected broken arm. Will update after he has seen the doctor.

Response from stripper whore's phone: Yeah, chicken sounds great.

I have no faith in the combined intellectual abilities of stripper-shat.


"Thou art the son and heir of a mongrel bitch." --King Lear

Posts: 4835 | Registered: Jan 2012 | From: Indiana
gonnabe2016
♀ 34823
Member # 34823
Default  Posted: 8:29 PM, March 27th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I totally agree that all comms need to go through email until ex-shat gets his own phone. Especially if you have had to take his texts into court -- it would be too easy for him to deny that *he* was the one having the conversation if it was occurring on someone else's phone.

Remember not too long ago when he kept texting you and *asking/assuming* that THIS was his make-up weekend? I think you need to pin him down on his *switch* weekend. (I think my agreement requires that the *make-up* happen within a certain amount of time). Give him a deadline to come up with a mutually agreeable weekend.


"Oh, what a tangled web we weave when first we practice to deceive." - Sir Walter Scott

In my effort to be *concise*, I often come off as blunt and harsh. Sorry, don't mean to be offensive.


Posts: 8252 | Registered: Feb 2012 | From: Midwest
SBB
♀ 35229
Member # 35229
Default  Posted: 10:44 PM, March 27th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Response from stripper whore's phone: Yeah, chicken sounds great.



I may have reached a point where I'd piss on him if he was on fire.... eventually!!

Posts: 5735 | Registered: Apr 2012 | From: Australia
Amazonia
♀ 32810
Member # 32810
Default  Posted: 2:38 AM, March 28th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Well, since neither of them has jobs anymore, why would they need two phones? They'll never be apart.


"You yourself deserve your love and affection as much as anybody in the universe." -Buddha
"Let's face it, life is a crap shoot." -Sad in AZ

Posts: 13934 | Registered: Jul 2011
CheshCat
♀ 27546
Member # 27546
Default  Posted: 2:47 AM, March 28th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

LOL... Maybe I'm just cynical... But you really think they only have TWO phones between them?

I'm just waiting for missent text to/from an AP to pop up into the mix.

Chesh


"Another conversation killed awkwardly! Yes! Point to my side." - Chesh's Brother

Moi : BS MH 30mumble
Him : WS Abuse Adultery Addict Six-figure Sociopath = Aaass
... I picked a winner!
DDay - 2006 ad naseam
Divorced! 2013


Posts: 571 | Registered: Feb 2010 | From: West Coast US
Softcentre
39166
Member # 39166
Default  Posted: 2:48 AM, March 28th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Do you think maybe stripperwhore has 'accidentally' broken his phone and is trying to keep an eye on him?


Me: BW
Him: STBXWH 'The Arse' - passive aggressive, tt'ing, gaslighting...multiple EA's with different women (1 'proven') and at least 1 PA

Took a while, but I like the me I am, without him.

"Until God opens the next do


Posts: 1118 | Registered: May 2013 | From: UK
IrishLass518
♀ 34373
Member # 34373
Default  Posted: 7:43 AM, March 28th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

This is the main reason I have NC with xWH. They "share" a phone. I refuse to attempt to co parent or communicate with OWifetress, it isn't her business. I agree, e-mail until he has his own phone. You may be e-mailing for quite some time. xWH and Owifetress also "share" an e-mail and FB account so there is NC at all. You may have to adjust to this situation in your future also. Trust issues run deep in these marriages born from As. Go figure


Me: 46 BS Divorced
Him: 45 Married OW
DDay: 07/04/2008
Divorced: 06/15/2011
5 kids: IrishLass 27,IrishLad 25, IrishLass 23, IrishLad 21 and IrishLad 12
"You can't run from trouble..there ain't no place that far"

Posts: 1815 | Registered: Jan 2012 | From: WA
7yrsflushed
♂ 32258
Member # 32258
Default  Posted: 8:57 AM, March 28th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Tesla: Teslet is in the ER for a suspected broken arm. Will update after he has seen the doctor.

Response from stripper whore's phone: Yeah, chicken sounds great.

Sorry I know this is a serious topic but that shit was funny!

Glad you got your response down Tesla. I also liked SBB's response.


D-day 5/24/11
BH = Me
2 children
The first true sense of calm I felt in YEARS was when I filed for D...
Divorced 9/2/14 and loving life!

Posts: 1943 | Registered: May 2011 | From: VA
BtraydWife
♀ 42581
Member # 42581
Default  Posted: 12:14 PM, March 28th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

stripper-shat

They are like Bennifer, only with less money.


Me-BW
Him-WH
DD-March 2010
TT for 6 months
Unremorseful for 3.5 years

Delay is the deadliest form of denial. - C. Northcote Parkinson

Your standards aren't up for negotiation just because he/she can't meet them.


Posts: 2619 | Registered: Feb 2014 | From: United States
Undefinabl3
♀ 36883
Member # 36883
Default  Posted: 12:28 PM, March 28th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I really, really, really....REALLY think you need to spell that out for him, how it works, or he's going to hound you for weeks

omg...Tesla couldn't spell it out better for him if she was the Queen of Seseme Street and using alphabete soup as a reward.


Me: 31 MH
Him: 37 MH
New online find 6/19/14 - shit
Phone Find 11/21/14 - I can't even right now.

Posts: 1833 | Registered: Sep 2012
tesla
♀ 34697
Member # 34697
Default  Posted: 11:10 PM, March 28th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Honestly, I'm not too worried about him hounding me for his make-up weekend...this is mainly due to how spring break and Easter falls (all happen to be my weekends...I love it when that shit falls my way). Then it's our court date. I really expect him to be sentenced to 30 days in jail...unless a miracle occurs and he hits 10 grand at the casinos.

Interesting tidbit...stripper-shat's phone was turned off today. So you know, shit is looking up for them.

How much longer you think it will be before this guy cuts his losses and disappears?


"Thou art the son and heir of a mongrel bitch." --King Lear

Posts: 4835 | Registered: Jan 2012 | From: Indiana
sparkysable
♀ 3703
Member # 3703
Default  Posted: 8:47 PM, March 29th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

How did I miss the nickname Stripper-Shat? I love it!


D-day OW#1 2/2004; R for 6 years; D-day OW#2 5/2010

Marriages that start this way, stepping over the bodies of loved ones as the giddy couple walks down the aisle, are not likely to last.


Posts: 3564 | Registered: Mar 2004 | From: NY
Topic Posts: 20

Return to Forum This Topic is Archived
adultry
madness  
© 2002 - 2014 SurvivingInfidelity.com. All Rights Reserved.