I had a MC, and she wasn't bad, she never blamed me for the WW crap, in fact she looked at me and basically said, Really? You're really gonna try to make this work?" and indicated that she thought chances were slim and none that it would last.
Somehow it did, but barely. We seem more like roommate with privileges than married, but I never did think it would be the same anyway. The MC wasn't a whole lot of help but did open the door and led a through a dialog.
I think we did decide the main part of her malfunction was her childhood and behaviors that she used to cope and control people in her peer group, ie: center of attention, company slut, etc.
That said, it doesn't change the universal truth that people cheat because they want to and they think they can get away with it.
The "why" I think helps me realize that this person I married is screwed up, is flawed, is mentally malfunctioning. To understand it requires you to detach and look at them as an organism. It's not emotional or personal, it's a survival mechanism because of a narcissistic compulsion of some sort.
Then again, maybe it's me that just needs to put a closure tag on that aspect of it in order to get thru it!
[This message edited by twisted at 4:44 PM, March 28th (Friday)]