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TrulySad posted 3/28/2014 14:43 PM

When you discover that the fiance of your beautiful, amazing, intelligent, sparkling, kind, and loving daughter, is having an inappropriate relationship with his coworker....and what you've learned along this miserable experience can be used to help her with what she's having to deal with.

This is just complete and utter shit... and it's so hard to sit back and only guide, support, and be here for her...when every part of this mom's being wants to go after that two-faced, undeserving, bucket of vomit and shake his world till his two pathetic balls go rolling into the gutter, next to the skank whore he's so into these days.

There is still a lot of unknown at the moment. But lots that is fact:

* This bucket of vomit does NOT deserve my daughter.
* This bucket of vomit, who happens to be a teacher at a Catholic school, should NOT be teaching our children.
* My beautiful daughter deserves the world, and an amazing man to walk through it, beside her, loving her every day of her life.
* My daughter is strong (hell, she's my daughter)
* My daughter WILL get past this, and come out stronger, and not damaged from this.
* And this mom, while I've taken the high road with my own relationships, when it comes to my children...I'm not afraid of getting dirty and doing what's needed to help them get to a good place again.

Please keep my daughter in your prayers, and send her strength...

Thanks!!!!!!

[This message edited by TrulySad at 2:51 PM, March 28th (Friday)]

LostSamurai posted 3/28/2014 15:06 PM

Prayers are with you! (Hugs)

OutoftheDeep posted 3/28/2014 15:09 PM

(((Trulysad Daughter)))

So painful. In answer to your question, I do not believe being a BS is ever a good thing, no matter how much insight we learn.

What does she want to do? I would be all for exposing him to the school and the ow bs if there is one. But I understand you have to support whether or not that is what she wants to do.

Help her get her ducks in a row, if they aren't married still, if they share a house or anything she should prepare. LIke we tell others, preparing doesn't mean you have to do it.

So sorry.

refuz2bavictim posted 3/28/2014 15:09 PM

Wow. I feel so sad for your DD, yet cant help but think that you will make a huge difference in her healing.

Prayers for strength for you both.

norabird posted 3/28/2014 15:37 PM

Sending strength for DD. What a lucky woman to have you by her side at this time.

LAFA posted 3/28/2014 18:59 PM

The only good things are that she gets away from this guy before she's in too deep, and any learning she does from the experience. Sadder but wiser.

4everfaithful83 posted 3/28/2014 20:42 PM

Sending you strength tonight, and your daughter!! Thank goodness she has you, a survivor, to help her through this difficult time!!

FixYou71 posted 3/29/2014 01:17 AM

Prayers going up for your dd. Give her a big hug for me.

whattheh posted 3/29/2014 11:38 AM

It's never a good thing. In fact in my case this is the worst and most difficult thing I have gone thru. I'm a shell of the person I was before this. But my fWH waited after 30years of M to committ adultery. At least he's deeply sorry and truly regrets it but it can't be undone so everything has changed.

So in your daughter's case it is a good thing that she found out her fiance's true colors before she got married and had a family with him. Ironically my fiance cheated on me and my H knew this and promised he would never do this to me.

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