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Leia posted 3/28/2014 16:36 PM

Got the court judgment yesterday. I've been kicked out of the master bedroom. Now I've been locked out parts of the house that have my antiques in it. The thing is, these rooms have food in them too and I can't get to it. I've put in a call to my L but she hasn't gotten back to me. Do I pop these locks or do I just work around it? Any advice is helpful.

Chrysalis123 posted 3/28/2014 16:39 PM

Does the judgement say you are locked out or is he retaliating?

Leia posted 3/28/2014 16:54 PM

He is trying to control me. I was awarded all the furniture that I inherited. He doesn't want me moving my antiques, saying that comes later. I'm pissed he's keeping me from some of my grandmas stuff.

Leia posted 3/28/2014 16:55 PM

No the judgment doesn't say I'm locked out.

momentintime posted 3/28/2014 17:05 PM

If you live there, it is your house too. Break the locks, but make sure you have some people with you when he discovers them broken. Move your antiques out of the house (with said friends, ASAP). Move anything that he can use to control you or cause you anxiety.

tryingagain74 posted 3/28/2014 17:10 PM

I agree-- get some big guy friends/brothers to come over and kick the doors in if they have to. It's your house as well; you have every right to enter whatever room you want and to take what is rightfully yours. Let him have a tantrum around a group of people; it will give you witnesses to his behavior if you need them to ever testify in court. Don't do this alone-- gather your posse!

Tearsoflove posted 3/28/2014 17:40 PM

You might also call your local police station and ask an officer to go with you while you collect your things. Bring a copy of the judgment.

Chrysalis123 posted 3/28/2014 17:47 PM

You might also call your local police station and ask an officer to go with you while you collect your things. Bring a copy of the judgment.


THIS!

CheshCat posted 3/28/2014 18:12 PM

Call the POLICE.

DO NOT pop locks, bring friends, etx.

Because if there is a judgement in play, and you break it, you're in for a world of trouble. Courts HATE it when people ignore what they're ordered to do. Just barging in could very quickly land your butt in jail with even more judgments against you, including DV charges if he feels in any way threatened.

Going to the police mean that both the letter of the judgement is followed, and that STBX cannot claim things happened that didn't... Because there will be police witness.

Chesh

Leia posted 3/28/2014 18:37 PM

Thanks. I will gather my posse and call the police. I'll let everyone know what is up before they get here. I'm just going to let it lay for the week....he can feed the dogs.

Softcentre posted 3/29/2014 01:49 AM

Take a video of the house, locked doors, explain what's happened and have today's newspaper to prove the date of the video. You may find it useful in the future.

sparkysable posted 3/29/2014 20:44 PM

So wait, am I reading this right? You are still living in the house, and he's locking certain parts of the house?

Is this for real? How is this even possible?

CheshCat posted 3/30/2014 01:54 AM

So wait, am I reading this right? You are still living in the house, and he's locking certain parts of the house?
Is this for real? How is this even possible?

Certain judgements are like that:

There are usually easement/common areas (like the kitchen), but not always, especially if there is a MIL apt, or access on different floors. (Like daylight basement). So a single family home is apportioned like a duplex.

Sometimes, instead of splitting a house, certain rooms will be assigned. Like 2 rooms for him, 2 rooms for her... And the rest is common use. Like having house mates, or suite campus housing.

In either case, each section of assigned space, are private property / the other spouse is not allowed in them without permission/ usually people put locks on them to insure that no one goes in there without their permission.

In my area this is a reeeeeeally common judgement when neither person is willing to leave voluntarily & here is no history of abuse. Because divorce takes 1-2 years, and a division of assets -like the house- doesn't happen until the end. So until the division can happen, both people are assumed the right TO the house... But the courts also recognize the need for privacy and the changing circumstance of the marriage.

HOWEVER... Breaking into someone else's assigned area is legally the same as breaking into someone's house, or someone's dorm room. The courts don't play when they've assigned private space. Hence, if you need access, and are refused it... Police have a protocol for assisting in supervised removal of private property. Whether your roommate has locked you out, or it's a situation like this of in-house divorce.

CC

Leia posted 3/30/2014 09:36 AM

In my case, nothing was said about the common uses of the current house. I did find the dog food. I just have to get in touch with my L too see what I can and cannot take.

momentintime posted 4/9/2014 13:03 PM

Leia how's it going? Thinking about you and your situation and wondered if you have been able to get your antiques and some form of sanity during your situation.

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