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User Topic: Need advice asap
Leia
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Default  Posted: 4:36 PM, March 28th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Got the court judgment yesterday. I've been kicked out of the master bedroom. Now I've been locked out parts of the house that have my antiques in it. The thing is, these rooms have food in them too and I can't get to it. I've put in a call to my L but she hasn't gotten back to me. Do I pop these locks or do I just work around it? Any advice is helpful.


"Somebody get this walking carpet out of my way." Princess Leia, Star Wars

Posts: 296 | Registered: Feb 2014 | From: Kansas
Chrysalis123
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Default  Posted: 4:39 PM, March 28th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Does the judgement say you are locked out or is he retaliating?


Donít get to the end of your life and find that you lived only the length of it; live the width of it as well.†

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Leia
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Default  Posted: 4:54 PM, March 28th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

He is trying to control me. I was awarded all the furniture that I inherited. He doesn't want me moving my antiques, saying that comes later. I'm pissed he's keeping me from some of my grandmas stuff.


"Somebody get this walking carpet out of my way." Princess Leia, Star Wars

Posts: 296 | Registered: Feb 2014 | From: Kansas
Leia
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Default  Posted: 4:55 PM, March 28th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

No the judgment doesn't say I'm locked out.


"Somebody get this walking carpet out of my way." Princess Leia, Star Wars

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momentintime
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Default  Posted: 5:05 PM, March 28th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

If you live there, it is your house too. Break the locks, but make sure you have some people with you when he discovers them broken. Move your antiques out of the house (with said friends, ASAP). Move anything that he can use to control you or cause you anxiety.


BS-me FWS - him
D-day 8/04
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tryingagain74
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Default  Posted: 5:10 PM, March 28th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I agree-- get some big guy friends/brothers to come over and kick the doors in if they have to. It's your house as well; you have every right to enter whatever room you want and to take what is rightfully yours. Let him have a tantrum around a group of people; it will give you witnesses to his behavior if you need them to ever testify in court. Don't do this alone-- gather your posse!


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Tearsoflove
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Default  Posted: 5:40 PM, March 28th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

You might also call your local police station and ask an officer to go with you while you collect your things. Bring a copy of the judgment.


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Chrysalis123
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Default  Posted: 5:47 PM, March 28th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

You might also call your local police station and ask an officer to go with you while you collect your things. Bring a copy of the judgment.


THIS!


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CheshCat
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Default  Posted: 6:12 PM, March 28th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Call the POLICE.

DO NOT pop locks, bring friends, etx.

Because if there is a judgement in play, and you break it, you're in for a world of trouble. Courts HATE it when people ignore what they're ordered to do. Just barging in could very quickly land your butt in jail with even more judgments against you, including DV charges if he feels in any way threatened.

Going to the police mean that both the letter of the judgement is followed, and that STBX cannot claim things happened that didn't... Because there will be police witness.

Chesh


"Another conversation killed awkwardly! Yes! Point to my side." - Chesh's Brother

Moi : BS MH 30mumble
Him : WS Abuse Adultery Addict Six-figure Sociopath = Aaass
... I picked a winner!
DDay - 2006 ad naseam
Divorced! 2013


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Leia
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Default  Posted: 6:37 PM, March 28th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thanks. I will gather my posse and call the police. I'll let everyone know what is up before they get here. I'm just going to let it lay for the week....he can feed the dogs.


"Somebody get this walking carpet out of my way." Princess Leia, Star Wars

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Softcentre
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Default  Posted: 1:49 AM, March 29th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Take a video of the house, locked doors, explain what's happened and have today's newspaper to prove the date of the video. You may find it useful in the future.


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Him: STBXWH 'The Arse' - passive aggressive, tt'ing, gaslighting...multiple EA's with different women (1 'proven') and at least 1 PA

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sparkysable
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Default  Posted: 8:44 PM, March 29th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

So wait, am I reading this right? You are still living in the house, and he's locking certain parts of the house?

Is this for real? How is this even possible?


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Marriages that start this way, stepping over the bodies of loved ones as the giddy couple walks down the aisle, are not likely to last.


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CheshCat
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Default  Posted: 1:54 AM, March 30th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

So wait, am I reading this right? You are still living in the house, and he's locking certain parts of the house?
Is this for real? How is this even possible?

Certain judgements are like that:

There are usually easement/common areas (like the kitchen), but not always, especially if there is a MIL apt, or access on different floors. (Like daylight basement). So a single family home is apportioned like a duplex.

Sometimes, instead of splitting a house, certain rooms will be assigned. Like 2 rooms for him, 2 rooms for her... And the rest is common use. Like having house mates, or suite campus housing.

In either case, each section of assigned space, are private property / the other spouse is not allowed in them without permission/ usually people put locks on them to insure that no one goes in there without their permission.

In my area this is a reeeeeeally common judgement when neither person is willing to leave voluntarily & here is no history of abuse. Because divorce takes 1-2 years, and a division of assets -like the house- doesn't happen until the end. So until the division can happen, both people are assumed the right TO the house... But the courts also recognize the need for privacy and the changing circumstance of the marriage.

HOWEVER... Breaking into someone else's assigned area is legally the same as breaking into someone's house, or someone's dorm room. The courts don't play when they've assigned private space. Hence, if you need access, and are refused it... Police have a protocol for assisting in supervised removal of private property. Whether your roommate has locked you out, or it's a situation like this of in-house divorce.

CC


"Another conversation killed awkwardly! Yes! Point to my side." - Chesh's Brother

Moi : BS MH 30mumble
Him : WS Abuse Adultery Addict Six-figure Sociopath = Aaass
... I picked a winner!
DDay - 2006 ad naseam
Divorced! 2013


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Leia
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Default  Posted: 9:36 AM, March 30th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

In my case, nothing was said about the common uses of the current house. I did find the dog food. I just have to get in touch with my L too see what I can and cannot take.


"Somebody get this walking carpet out of my way." Princess Leia, Star Wars

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momentintime
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Default  Posted: 1:03 PM, April 9th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Leia how's it going? Thinking about you and your situation and wondered if you have been able to get your antiques and some form of sanity during your situation.


BS-me FWS - him
D-day 8/04
R'd

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