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scangel3 posted 3/29/2014 06:06 AM

I've been hearing a lot of songs lately that are pulling at me thru the A process.

There's a few that hold me up, then there's those few that should represent a M, but I know they don't represent my M, more specifically wh's feelings or mine. Here's my list at the moment:

Helping me/holding me up:

Let it go, from the movie Frozen
And Titanium

These two songs remind me I'm stronger then this, and I can get thru and be me and that's ok,better then ok

Then there's the songs that make me sad, by showing me what I'm missing/wanting in my M

All of me by John Legend, my wh won't give me back his heart/love. There for he won't give me all of himself, and I can't give him all of me ever again. I did that once and look where I am today.
And "say something" not sure the artist,but that song reminds me that I don't have a wh that's willing to fight for me and is just willing to let me walk away.
And then there's the song "I won't give up" well what can I say,he gave up a long time ago and never tried to come back, and I know he never will fight like this song.

There are a few I remember at this moment (it's 4am here). I know there's more that I can't remember the names of.

[This message edited by scangel3 at 6:13 AM, March 29th (Saturday)]

Sadmumma posted 3/29/2014 06:31 AM

Hmm..

All of me is one
Story of my life (one D).. What can I say I have pre teen girls

The re is another song ... Which talks about blood being bicker than water... And would ou believe that for the
Ice of me I can't think of it?? Drawn a mental blank.

soloney posted 3/29/2014 09:05 AM

I heard "All of Me" by John Legend the other day at work and it made me start crying.

"Say something" by A Great Big World and Christina Aguilera and
"I won't give up" by Jason Mraz both touch my heart strings. Sometimes I send songs to my WH when I don't know what else to say. They can sum up my feelings so beautifully.

Wodnships posted 3/29/2014 09:19 AM

Warning I have eclectic song tastes...

"Haven't We lost enough" - Stephen Stills
"Wild World" - Cat Stevens
"In my Darkest Hour" - Megadeth
"How Blue Can you get" - BB king
"Don't do it" - The Band

Putto posted 3/29/2014 09:22 AM

I've got a collection :) One playlist for feeling happy/hopefull and one playlist for feeling not happy... since I'm still very much on a roller coaster.

Scangel3 & Soloney: I have "Say Something" & "I Won't Give Up" included too!

"Staying Alive" - Cursive
I've decided tonight
I'm staying alive
Just kicking and screaming
The worst is over

"Both Sides Now" - Joni Mitchell

"Stubborn Love" - Lumineers

"Melt My Heart to Stone" - Adele
And I hear your words that I made up
You say my name like there could be an us
I best tidy up my head I'm the only one in love

WH chose some songs for a romantic playlist once when I asked him to...
One of this choices brought me to tears, its an incredible song, especially coming from him:
"You Still Believe in Me" - Beach Boys
I know perfectly well
I'm not where I should be
I've been very aware
You've been patient with me
Every time we break up
You bring back your love to me
And after all I've done to you
How can it be
You still believe in me

[This message edited by Putto at 9:40 AM, March 29th (Saturday)]

Wodnships posted 3/29/2014 09:27 AM

"Both Sides Now" - Joni Mitchell

Nice pull. I forgot all about that song. I'm going to have to add it to my play list.

kate0421 posted 3/29/2014 09:45 AM

Omg this is so weird. I was driving around this morning and got on here just to ask this same question about songs... wow..lol

Anyways Katy Perry has pretty much saved my sanity. Especially her new CO thay recently came out.
Roar katty perry is one of them and a few on her new album..don't know the names yet..
Dark horse- katty perry
Unconditionally -katty perry
Just give me a reason -pink
Hurt you -babyface
Too close -Alex clare (how I feel sometimes)
The worst -Jhene Aiko
Clarity -zedd? I think.lol
All the way home -Tamara Braxton
Wake me up -professor (reggae) it could be a trigger for some though.
When a womans fed up - R.Kelly
I Need your love - Ellie Goulding
All of me -John legend
Say something -Christina
I won't give up
Let it go

4everfaithful83 posted 3/29/2014 09:47 AM

IT TAKES TWO - KATY PERRY

Pretty good song about her break up with Russell
Brand.

And Stereophonics - Been Caught Cheating - Great song!!!

I have a whole playlist for when I'm in the mood for some wine and a pity party for myself, which can be really therapeutic!! :) The ones in Italic are my absolute favorites (give them a listen if you have free time!!)

Chevelle - Send the Pain Below
Birdy - Wings
Coldplay - The Scientist
Miley Cyrus - Maybe you're right
Rihanna - What now
Stereophonics - Been Caught Cheating
James Morrison - Broken Strings
Gavin Degraw - Not Over You
Katy Perry - Ghost
Gavin Degraw - Heartbreak
Adele - Someone Like You
Beyonce - Resentment
Mat Kearney - All I Need
Coldplay - Swallowed In The Sea
Beyonce - Irreplaceable
One Republic - Au Revoir
Gavin Degraw - Need
Mumford And Sons - After The Storm

ButterflyGirl posted 3/29/2014 10:02 AM

Yep yep to Katy Perry. Adele, Pink, Kelley Clarkson, and Carrie Underwood are my go-to girls too.

I always wished my ex would be remorseful, and Daughtry has a lot of "remorseful" and "take me back" type songs. I asked ex to listen to some of them, but he just told me he hates Daughtry and refused.. When we separated, I found "What I Meant To Say," and that's my favorite song by Daughtry now..

sadone29 posted 3/29/2014 10:14 AM

You'll Be Okay by A Great Big World

sunflowergirl30 posted 3/29/2014 10:24 AM

Songs that I listen to lately on my iPhone....

Beautiful pain- Eminem
Bleeding out- imagine Dragons
Bravado- lorde
Demons- Imagine Dragons
Drive- Miley Cyrus
Falling fast- Avril Lavigne
Feels like coming home-Jetta
Glory Bound- Martin Sexton
Its been awhile- Staind
Lego house- Ed Sheeran
Powerless- Linkin Park
The Reason- Hoobstank
Reply-Staind
Roar- katy Perry
Sad- Maroon 5
Shelter- Birdy
Skinny love- Birdy
Somebody that I used to know- gotye
Stay- Jesse Thomas
Strip my mind- red hot chili peppers
To be with you- Mr. Big
True love- Pink
Try- Nelly Furtado
The way we touch- we are twin
What goes around comes around- justin Timberlake
When you love somebody- leela James
Young forever- nicki minaj
Your biggest mistake- Ellie Goulding
Nobody's petfect- Jessie J

karmahappens posted 3/29/2014 10:34 AM

slight t/j

After a few months we took a spur of the moment trip to Florida. I think we both just thought we could put the world on hold for a bit.

We were heading towards Animal Kingdom at Disney and Remember When by Alan Jackson comes on the radio.

We are pulling into the park amongst a million other happy people and we both have red swollen eyes and snot running all over the place.

I still cannot listen to that song without breaking down.

LeftOutintheCold posted 3/29/2014 11:26 AM

Listening to songs are so therapeutic and I've been searching for some great songs to add to my list. Thanks for all the ideas!! Here are a few of mine:

- Just Give Me a Reason - Pink
- A Little Bit Stronger - Sara Evans
- Cheater, Cheater - Joey & Rory
- Funhouse - Pink
- I Don't Believe You - Pink
- Over You - Daughtry
- You Oughta Know - Alanis Morrisette
- I Told You So - Randy Travis
- Come Over - Kenny Chesney
- Don't You Remember - Adele
- Roar - Katy Perry
- Fighter - Christina Aguilera

Wodnships posted 3/29/2014 11:57 AM

This thread is very timely for me. I heard two more on the radio today that I haven't thought about in a long time.

"Doin' Time" -Sublime
"Rain King" - Counting Crows (This song gave me goose bumps today.)

Don't try and bleed me
I've been there before
And I deserve a little more
I belong in the service of a queen
I belong anywhere but in between
She's been lying and I've been sinking
I am the rain king.

*goose bumps

kate0421 posted 3/29/2014 12:41 PM

Oh I forgot to mention Love Me by katy perry... it is my #1 song right now

ButterflyGirl posted 3/29/2014 12:44 PM

Dang, I haven't heard Rain King in ages. Great CD. I ended up with two of them somehow. Time to put one of them in my car. Thanks for that..

Wodnships posted 3/29/2014 13:09 PM

Dang, I haven't heard Rain King in ages. Great CD. I ended up with two of them somehow. Time to put one of them in my car. Thanks for that..

Any time.

I've always said the biggest hindrance to the Counting Crows was that they released the perfect fist album. No band can do that every time. When it's your first album everything that comes after people say "It's good but not as good as that first one." Then they start talking about how you lost your touch. If August and Everything After was their third album they'd be talked about along side all the greats in the history of rock and roll.

TheBestMe posted 3/29/2014 13:44 PM

My emotions fluctuate during the day. Early on in the process ALL my song choices were tear jerkers. Now, the choices are more eclectic.

Feelin' Single R. Kelly

Hurt You Toni Braxton & Baby Face
Where Did We Go Wrong Toni Braxton & Baby Face

Psycho Killer Talking Heads

Foolish Heart Steve Perry

strengthandhope posted 3/29/2014 13:48 PM

Lady Gaga has helped me so much during this past DD. The song Dope is amazing and hits a cord with me because my husband is SA...

Cork's off, it's on
The party's just begun
I promise
This drink is my last one
I know I fucked up again
Because I lost my only friend
God forgive my sins
Don't leave me, I
Oh I will hate myself until I die

My heart would break without you
Might not awake without you
Been hurting low, from living high for so long
I'm sorry, and I love you
Sing with me, "Bell Bottom Blue"
I'll keep on searching for an answer cause I need you more than dope

I need you more than dope
Need you more than dope
Need you more than dope
I need you more than dope

Toast one last puff
And two last regrets
Three spirits and
Twelve lonely steps
Up heaven's stairway to gold
Mine myself like coal
A mountain of a soul
Each day, I cry
Oh, I feel so low from living high

My heart would break without you
Might not awake without you
Been hurting low, from living high for so long
I'm sorry, and I love you
Sing with me, "Bell Bottom Blue"
I'll keep searching for an answer cause I need you more than dope

I need you more than dope
I need you more than dope
I need you more than dope
I need you more than dope

I need you more
Need you more
I need you more than dope

Allornothing posted 3/29/2014 18:20 PM

I must say that Guns n Roses "Get in the Ring" speaks to me...

ETA: This song pops into my head every time bat-sh!t-crazy wannabe OW starts her shenanigans.

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