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Neveragain1221 posted 3/29/2014 18:53 PM

Okay, so my BH has been on leave from work for the past month. He is on contract in Manhattan, so he lives in an apartment his job rents for him there while I live in our home in Minnesota. It's been hard being apart, but this last month has been so great. It was rocky for the first few weeks, but the last half of the month we grew closer and took some very good steps towards healing.

Anyway, I knew he was supposed to leave to go back to work tomorrow. I was sad, but he usually doesn't take flights home until the evening, around 7 or 8 pm, so I was pretty happy we'd have all day to spend together. I worked today so I didn't get to see him, but I told myself I'd have tomorrow to say goodbye and give him a proper send off (if you know what I mean )

Anyway, BH and I found out today that his flight is leaving tomorrow morning at 8 am. I have to get him to the airport at 6 or 630. I'm totally crushed. The entire day we thought we'd have is gone. If I had known he was leaving in the morning, I would have called off of work today to be home with him. He's made plans with friends weeks ago for tonight, so he's not even going to be home until 11 or 12, so we don't even have tonight to be together. I just can't believe it. I've been crying so hard I've been throwing up since I found out. I guess I was just really banking on having tomorrow with him. I thought we'd be sleeping in, making breakfast together, spending the day catching up on Game of Thrones and otherwise just lazing about enjoying each other. And now, it's gone. Just like that. I'm heartbroken.

SisterMilkshake posted 3/29/2014 19:15 PM

((((Never)))) I am so sorry. I can understand how very upsetting this must be for you. It was finally going to be a gorgeous day here in Minnesota tomorrow, too.

Prayingforhope posted 3/29/2014 19:28 PM

Sorry to read this and feel what you're going through. Nothing worse than having the perfect plan and then having it pulled away like that. Even more now that you realize how special moments with your BS are...

Hang in there and hey, why not do something double special for him while he is on the trip? Something new to remind him how you wished that special time wouldn't have been taken away.

Hopefully without offending you, but a sexy note or something would probably make his day while he was working away from home.

Take care and look forward to his return!

Neveragain1221 posted 3/29/2014 19:36 PM

I'll definitely be sending him sexy notes. And videos.

I'm just so sad he has to leave. Especially because our anniversary is on Thursday, and we'll be apart for it.

I'm honestly really, really hoping that he'll just skip the flight tomorrow and tell his office that he needs to work from home for medical reasons. His doctor put him on new meds for his depression/adhd, and it requires being monitored closely by his doctor. He can't do that out in NY. His boss knows he has medical issues, and his job can be done remotely. I'm just praying that he'll tell them he needs to work from home because of his illness, and leave it at that. I know they'll say yes. They've been very good about working with him. He's afraid if he asks for that on top of the month of leave he just took, they'll terminate his contract. I don't think they will.

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