I am so frustrated. Post-divorce has been hell. It's been 3 mo's since the divorce was finalized but prior to that 3 years of separation. This was a long time coming & in the works.
He seems incapable of handling both of our children (and always has been since he left us) because he is so self absorbed, and if I could clinically diagnose him I would say he's bipolar. He can go from talking to me calmy to raging mad in a few hours. And we are limiting our talks to kids only now. I have learned.
For example, today I'm ill w/ the flu. He agreed to watch kids this afternoon. I told him our daughter had a school carnival she wanted to attend this evening and I had promised her she could go. He very unwillingly said he would take her but acted like a baby and said he really didn't want to in front of her. He just ruins everything for everyone.
i'm so tired of it all. he should be capable of handling our kids when I cannot. He does not take them for weekends. I just want to almost say pull the plug and talk to my attorney about his lack of visits and attention towards them. I never ever thought I would say this but he is a dead beat dad. Yes he pays child support but that's it. I have an 8 yr old who literally looks for her dad. She will call and text him and he won't respond. I talk about it with her and then distract her with activity. I think with time & maturity she will figure out what he is like. Our son, 3, doesn't really care one way or the other. He doesn't spend hardly any time with dad and that's dad's choosing...........
Any advice? I feel like this is one of the hardest times of our life. Daughter is dealing with her anger/frustration, son is growing up okay, but lacks a male role model, and me.........Im stressed to the max trying to hold down the fort at home & at work.