I almost posted this in New Beginnings, but then I thought when i was originally trying to work my way through and/or decide if I could hack my way out my now EX’s infidelity and over-all-fuckedupness, I wish I would have paid more attention to what my cats were trying to tell me… so I am posting it in General for that reason. Because MAYBE it will help someone else in here who will have a lightbulb moment and recognize what their cat or dog is trying to tell them…
I feel so much guilt now… living with my ex there was often so much stress and unpredictable mood swings and temper tantrums. i know now, FINALLY what was going on. He had PTSD from being in the military. There are 2 different kinds of PTSD, the kind that people get from terrible shit that happens to them, and the other kind, that people get from horrific shit that they did to other human beings. The first is somewhat easier to work thru… The second type not so much, unless maybe you are a sociopath, in which case I guess you just don’t give a fuck about anyone but yourself…. Anyway he was not a sociopath, and he was definitely suffering from the second type.
So to get back on subject, he made our 2 cats craAAAzy. Pee on the furniture, lick themselves bald, guano-loco… the cat who was the most emotionally dependent on me, was the one that became the most impossible. Of course. My ex made some ultimatums and i caved. Hence my GUILT and remorse…
The reason I almost posted this in NEW BEGINNINGS forum is i am in the process of extricating myself from a romantic relationship that just does not work for me. He is kind of a control freak to be honest. He is not a bad man, and since it is now a LDR, I was kinda sorta thinking i could just let it slowly peter out… IOW take the lazy cowardly way out… but he is expected to be back on island in 8 days…
However he didn’t just drive me nuts, i have a cat that he used to try to ORDER AROUND in a LOUD VOICE like she was a labrador retriever, not really MEAN, just NOT how you talk to a cat, you know? Anyway, it made her behave very neurotic, and she has developed cancer in the last 2 months, and so now there is no way I am going to make her put up with him in the time she has left… because she deserves better, and so do I.
So, if you have a cat or a dog that is trying to tell you something and SAVE you, please LISTEN.