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teeghan posted 3/30/2014 20:16 PM

Omg I am heated pissed. I have a tpo for domestic violence and he gets them every other weekend supervised through his parents. They asked for extra time this week because of spring break and I said absolutely not. My kids already hate going and have major panic attacks before they even go and I wait for over two hours tonight when they call me back and aid their attorney was told by my attorney they could keep them
Until 6pm Monday which is a bold face lie. I can't get my attorney tonight but when I talked to them Thursday when they called me they flat out agreed NO EXTRA TIME BE AUSE OF HOW THE KIDS DO NOT WONT TO GO. So I finding hard to believe my attorney would give permission and not tell me when I said NO already.

Omg I am a basket case and they would not let me talk to the kids. He has already found out what new school they go to by asking them questions and where we live when that is suppose to be confidential. Oh my god 8 am can not get here fast enough. I am sooooooo sooooolo mad.

Anyone else dealt with interference with custody before?

tesla posted 3/30/2014 20:38 PM

I asked my L what steps I should take in the event ex-shat were to try to keep Teslet past the time stated in the parenting guidelines.

She said, try to contact him and let him know I was at his house to pick Teslet up.

If Teslet was not returned, I should call the police and present them with a copy of my decree and the parenting guidelines...and let them handle it from there.

Your L cannot 'give permission.' That is not their function.

I would have a copy of your decree, parenting time agreement, and pertinent texts regarding the pick up time. If your ex does not produce the children after you have contacted him, I would call the police.

Klove posted 3/30/2014 20:42 PM

Yyyyyyyikes! I'm pissed/scared for you!
(Hugs)

Nature_Girl posted 3/30/2014 20:46 PM

I was given the same advice as Tesla. Inform him that the children should be returned, and if that doesn't happen according to the schedule I should proceed to contact the police to ask for their assistance.

I'd call them right now if I was in your shoes.

betrayedfriend posted 3/30/2014 20:49 PM

Teeghan, I think you need to notify the police immediately, you have a TPO and he has essentially kidnapped the children. Ask them to go get your children and return them to you. Your lawyer would not have spoken to their lawyer without speaking to you about it as well, especially if the decision to not allow extra time had already been made. His family are not good choices to supervise visitation, i recommend you file for an emergency hearing to change the visitation to court supervised by an officer of the court (make it so he has to pay for it) I am scared for you and your kids, on one hand you don't want to be accused of parental alienation by telling them to not share with Daddy but at the same time, they are not understanding the severity of what could happen if he knows what school and their home address. I also recommend contacting the school and providing them a copy of the TPO and making it clear that anyone who is picking up your kids must be on a preapproved list and show ID, if your x or his family members show up the police should be called and you should be notified

Catwoman posted 3/30/2014 20:49 PM

I would get a copy of your order and go over there with the police and retrieve your children.

There is no way your attorney "gave permission." I would also file a complaint for contempt.

I would now go to the school and give them a copy of your custody order so that he cannot retrieve them from school.

I would have my attorney on this first thing Monday. Come down and come down hard.

Cat

teeghan posted 3/30/2014 21:03 PM

Police here told me they won't do anything. It is civil in Georgia and to call my attorney in the morning. Going to be a LONG night.........:(.

100% custody. Because of domestic violence he did in front of the kids and he has been NPD nightmare. And it sucks to hear the police will do nothing. I even spoke to a supervisor. Unless he took them over state lines it is a civil matter and that is that. Wtf??????

nekorb posted 3/30/2014 21:10 PM

Teeghan I'm so sorry.

I can't imagine what you are going through.

Have you been able to talk to the children?

Counting down the hours with you.

((Hugs))

tesla posted 3/30/2014 21:15 PM

That is bullshit.
In my state there is a difference between the city PD and the county PD. If you call city PD, they give you that run around bullshit. But county is more responsive. I would march my ass into the county sheriff's office with my decree and guidelines and if they tell you that it is a civil matter, I would tell them that I want to file kidnapping charges...there...now it's criminal and they can do something.

Nature_Girl posted 3/30/2014 21:47 PM

scroll down:

http://www.womenslaw.org/statutes_detail.php?statute_id=6159

PurpleRose posted 3/30/2014 21:48 PM

Yup... Same thing here.

I have a PO. He decided it was inconvenient to return my son so kept him (over spring break) until it was more convenient.

I called the police and was told they wouldn't help me go get my son because that would be violating the PO. I filed a police report and have that on file for when we end up back in court or I end up needing to show history of his behavior.

Ridiculous, but same BS story I got here too. Sorry..

Dreamboat posted 3/30/2014 22:23 PM

Call the police and report a kidnapping. THAT will get their attention! Tell them that your IL's and X (or stbx) kidnapped your child and you want them to issue an Amber Alert.

I live in GA and I often hear Amber Alerts for kids taken by their biological parent.

Keep pushing until someone is responsive.

(((hugs)))

careerlady posted 3/30/2014 22:25 PM

OMG! Did you try threatening police intervention? Maybe they don't know they won't do anything. Make sure something is in text or email or at least VAR for documentation, including that they won't let you talk to the kids. As soon as you get the kids back have your attorney take him back to court to eliminate the grandparent supervision as they have failed. He will have to be supervised by someone else, maybe your side of the family? If anything.

nekorb posted 3/31/2014 05:15 AM

8am is coming.

Thinking of you.

Not long now.

betrayedfriend posted 3/31/2014 08:44 AM

I hope you're talking to your lawyer and filing kidnapping charges today... How are you holding up?

Nature_Girl posted 3/31/2014 15:27 PM

Thinking of you, Hon, and hoping things went well today.

Kajem posted 3/31/2014 15:33 PM

Hoping you've got your babies back and your lawyer involved!

I'm willing to bet their lawyer is not going to like being put in the middle of this with words shoved in his mouth.

Hugs,

solus sto posted 3/31/2014 16:20 PM

Oh, (((teeghan))) I hope it's all wrapping up, happily, by now.

I am outraged for you.

badd posted 4/3/2014 21:03 PM

bump hoping she is ok, has anybody heard?

Mack9512 posted 4/7/2014 20:17 PM

Has anyone heard from teeghan? I'm worried.