9. Don't schedule dates together.
10. Don't keep saying, "I Love You!" Because if you have a brain in your head, he/she is at this particular moment, not very loveable.
17. Don't be nasty, angry or even cold - Just pull yourself back. Don't always be so available? for anything! Your spouse will notice. More important, he/she will notice that you're missing.
My WH and I have been having date nights and constantly saying "I Love You" to each other. A majority of the time, he says it to me first, and I'll reply.... But I am guilty of saying it first at times.
Going by # 17, how should I reply or pull back when he wants to schedule date nights or says I Love You or I Miss You? (Which both are very often) he texts me a lot while he's at work.
#9 & 10 are the hardest for me to figure out with making him feel like I don't want to be with him.
The others, I understand and feel although some will be tough, I feel that they are necessary to help my own self-esteem.
All suggestions welcome!