But, wouldn't selfishness go along with having excessive self-esteem? I mean, wouldn't having very high self esteem correspond to a sense of entitlement and selfishness more than low self esteem?
I always thought fWH was excessively humble. I thought this was why he didn't apply for jobs. Bc he felt unworthy. I thought this was why he had trouble with me. The unworthy thing again.
He has since told me that he was completely self-absorbed. That he thought he was right about everything. That he thought he knew it all.
Having said that, I don't think that this was true self-esteem. I think it was compensating for a lack of such.
People with self-esteem make healthy choices. So, they do not cheat. They solve their problems in a healthy manner.
Cheating is not healthy.
A person with self-esteem does not need to be selfish. They know they are ok and do not need to validate that with unhealthy behaviors.
So yes, a selfish person has low self-esteem. Even though they might claim to be the greatest thing since sliced bread. If they KNEW it, they wouldn't have to PROVE it.
Hope this helps a little.