Geez. This is just perfect. Needless to say, things are a roller coaster around here. WH has moved out and things are going ok. But my kids heard way too much before he moved. Needless to say my 9 (almost 10) year old knows way too much.
I have a counseling appointment for him. He feels comfortable talking to my counselor and has seen him a few times. He asked me over the weekend if he could go talk to counselor, he had some questions. Now, son is always asking how WH and I are doing, seems happy and up when we are together, and gets down if I tell him Daddy is at his apartment, etc.
I asked him if he wanted to talk to me about anything first to see if it would help. We have a pretty open relationship and he feels pretty comfortable with me. He asked if Daddy wouldn't have met those girls if we hadn't moved to current state 3 years ago. That maybe if we hadn't moved, Daddy wouldn't have met those girls and wouldn't have hurt me.
Oh man, it was heartbreaking. Obviously I couldn't say what was on my mind "Well son, Daddy was doing those things 3 years before we came here, so that wouldn't have made a difference." But it was the first thing on my mind. Then he asked me if Daddy had sex with these women. I, of course, asked him what sex was to him. He said "getting naked and hugging". Again, I cringe inside. My son is picturing his Dad doing these things!! I told him I couldn't answer some of his questions, that he could ask his Dad if he wanted. He said he didn't want Daddy to get mad at him like he gets mad at me when I ask questions sometimes. Total facepalm on my part for not keeping this further from my kids.
So I have made him an appointment for next week. Hopefully counselor can help him. I haven't discussed with WH yet, going to run it by counselor tomorrow at my individual session. Then hopefully we all deal with in couples on Friday.
The kid knows way too much!! He says he understands Daddy made mistakes and has forgiven him for them. But I'm scared what this has done to him in the long run. Ugh.
I hate what this has done to my family.