It's getting around that my sister is pregnant, due fairly soon.
The father is our first cousin.
The state that they are in, sex with your first cousin is illegal.
Apparently his teen DD goes to the same school as my niece (bro's DD) and is pretty open that her dad's GF is his cousin. Embarrassment for niece as this is her aunt, KWIM?
So, it could be portrayed as common knowledge.
My dad is highly upset. He feels obligated to keep sis in the will, but only for the money (like she cares about sentimental items). He will not acknowledge the child. This is a man who counts his stepkids as family and still keeps the door open for my half-bro who told him "You need to get over (Stepmom's) death. It's been 6months. I got over (dog's death) in less time than that."
Ok to the topic at hand...my brother is upset by this news too. Sis is over 40yo, so between that and the cousin factor, the baby is at increased risk for issues. Even though cousin babies aren't as risky as we tend to think, the research I read says it doubles the risks.
Sis has also been verbally abusive to my bro's girls and my kids. Keep in mind we've only visited 5 times since 2000, so it's not like there's lots of daily interaction. Her (X?)BH told me he didn't have kids with her precisely because he knew she would be a bad mom. This is the man who gave her anything she asked for.
Additionally, they're living in a small rental with my mom (probable BPD) and his three young adult/teen kids. Mom was pretty abusive to me as a child, as well as some of my siblings...she kind of picked and chose. A smorgasbord of who to neglect, who to verbally berate and so on. Her house is always filthy...kitty little never changed so the cats go EVERYWHERE filthy. Dishes stacked with cockroaches running through them. That kind of house. Sis is the opposite...or was. The few pics I've seen she's let herself go and looks sloppy, so unlike her. So the house could be any range of disgusting to "step on my carpet in anything but your socks and I'll beat you".
Is it petty to call CPS or somehow turn them in to the authorities? Just the conception of the child is against the law in their state, though I doubt it's ever enforced. As much as the thought of her having a baby by our cousin sickens me, I worry it will be mistreated, especially as it grows.
Bro has thought about reporting them too. I'm waffling. MrH said I'm being petty. That I'm jealous because mom acknowledges them as her kids/grandkids but not me or my kids. I've searched my heart and know that's not it. He says that I wanted a baby and lost it and now I hear of her having one. Truth is, even if this was a baby with her (X?)BH, I would worry about it.
What do you all think?