(((RightTrack))) I hear you and your feelings are absolutely valid.
I want to suggest a thread for you. It actually is in the WS Forum and is geared at WSs. But as a BS, it helped me to read it and relay the info to my spouse (or have him read it directly, if that works for you).
There are parts that specifically address what you are saying. One that particularly helped me was the "six statements" bit at the bottom. When my WS did that consistently, it helped me tremendously. Like PP said, there is not a lot gained from direct retribution. But having WS to man up and do this is a pretty close second.