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User Topic: Shut down day...
♀ 42096
Member # 42096
Default  Posted: 6:40 PM, March 31st (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

This was really a weekend from helllllll.
5 weeks into separation. Sat was the last day of ski season- I took the boys. I just kept flashing to last day last yr. We were so proud of our youngest's progress. We were finally all 4 able to ride lift on the "big hill" together. Last run of last day we all cheered "go team" at the top, then hugged at the bottom- teary the season was over.
All weekend I couldn't shake the image. Stbxwh had boys overnight at his brother's for the first time since s. It was so quiet here.
Anyway- this morning I just couldn't hack work. Called in sick. Put the boys on the school bus and went back to bed. Here is the weirdest...I slept all day. I slept 6-7 hrs last night and then from 830-1 and from 2-4 today?
Stbxwh noticed my car was home and kept texting to see if I was ok and why I was home. I responded right away that I was ok, boys were ok. He kept grilling "are you sick?" "Do
You have an appointment?"
I told him I'm ok and why I'm home is none of his business.
He snarked at me...
And then I sent him a huggggge long text just unleashing all kinds of anger on him.

I'm so ashamed of breaking 180. Again.

I'm having some really. Hard. Days.

"But stand still is all I did
Love like ours is never fixed
Still I stuck around
I did behave
I saved you every time
I was a fool for love
I was a fool for love"

Posts: 294 | Registered: Jan 2014
♀ 42758
Member # 42758
Default  Posted: 7:08 PM, March 31st (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


Anger is good....I think it helps you broke 180 today, but tomorrow is a new day. You will learn how peaceful it is to not contact him at all!

My DDay was 3 months ago exactly....I am still angry, but I do not send crazy long texts to STBXWH anymore ( I did in the beginning though, now it's mostly sarcastic remarks about OW). The way I am getting back at him is where it hurts mosts...his wallet. I plan on getting alimony, child support, half of our paid off house, half of his 401K, etc...He did not want attorneys involved, but I am doing what I need to do and he is NOT in control any more!

You will get through this!!

Kids: DD7
DDay: 12/31/2013
Married 15 years

You can't rationalize irrational behavior.

Posts: 137 | Registered: Mar 2014 | From: North Carolina
♀ 38377
Member # 38377
Default  Posted: 7:41 PM, March 31st (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

You annoyed him and pissed him off more when you told him it was none of his business.. Remember that next time. It is NOT his business anymore, and shutting him out is the best thing you can do. If you're happy, sad, angry, feeling better without him, whatever it is, it's none of his business anymore..

I needed time off work too.. Luckily, my boss was understanding.. Take care of you girl..

xBW~ 37
Two DS~ 9 and 13

Posts: 3120 | Registered: Feb 2013 | From: USA
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