I think someone really narcissistic cannot feel true remorse. And what we see from that type of personality that approaches remorse can't persist. Even if part of them is truly remorseful...the other part, the entitled and selfish part, sabotages it.
I guess this is why I ask(at least partly). He is such a selfish person, and in hindsight he always has been but veiled nicely. Now, he has me stuck in his hometown and in just a few short months it's clear that his mother is a selfish asshole and he is just like her.
I just don't think he is truly capable of change or remorse because I don't think he truly thinks he was wrong. He has justified everything he's done, and the only reason now that he is changing his words and trying to change his actions is because he is feeling the loss of his control over me. He has fully realized that I am willing and working on leaving. He is running scared trying to pull me back in.
He thinks it will work becaue it always has but things have never been this bad, and I told him the other day that I just don't like him as a person, and I think that got to him. He has lost complete control of me, and that is the only thing that scares him.
Many reasons I don't think he can change for good because he never has. Despite trying his hardest to be this "perfect giving husband" even yesterday I asked him to do three things because I have been insanely sick for three days.
All he had to do was take one kid to an activity and leave a check there. Then, all he had to do was drop a check ACROSS the street for other child's activity then get a bag of ice on the way home.
He droppped our child off and picked her up and still couldn't manage to remember the checks. I can't depend on him to take care of anything much less me. He always comes first. He's just like his mother.
Maybe I've answered my own question and I just need yet another pair of big girl pants to put on and get the hell out of here. It's just so hard.
Married 11...he forgot our anniversary among other things. Every birthday, holdiay, whatever is forever ruined.
Together 17 years
Two great kids.
He doesn't get it. Moving us to his hometown with his toxic mother is going to