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Tripletrouble (original poster member #39169) posted at 2:30 AM on Wednesday, April 2nd, 2014
My D day was 11 months ago and I've been in with my awesome therapist for the last nine of those months. Today felt groundbreaking. For the first time, we ventured into new territory - unpacking my pre-existing baggage. I have been so focused on the shock of discovery, the R attempt, the divorce, and the immediate aftermath. Today was the first time I felt ready to examine my own crappy issues that predate the infidelity. It was strangely empowering to devote some energy to fixing things about myself unrelated to my XH's path of destruction. It was like looking within and saying "hey Triple - you in there?". Yes, I am, right here, and I'm ready to own my shit. It's like the next chapter is starting and its a huge relief.
Ps I know therapize isn't a word but it's fun to say 
40 somethings - me BW after 20 years
D Day April 2013
Divorced November 2013
Happily remarried 2018
Time is a great healer but a terrible beautician.
kg201 ( member #40173) posted at 2:38 AM on Wednesday, April 2nd, 2014
I like being therapetized. 
Me: BH, 40
Her: Ms. Daisy
Together 18 years, married 15+
LTA 3.5 years, living together
Dday: 7/28/13
Ds17, DS12, DD12
Divorced! 2/24/2015
Apology. You keep using that word. I do not think it means what you think it means.
one2ndchance ( member #14759) posted at 3:27 AM on Wednesday, April 2nd, 2014
For every challenge we have in our lives, there is opportunity to learn and grow as a person. If you think about it, we grow most from difficulties and not so much from the easy times.
If we never had problems, how would we learn to cope? If we never had pain, how would we learn resilience? If we never had loss, how would we learn appreciation? If we never had struggles, how would we learn strength?
While it's hard to see infidelity and divorce as a blessing, the silver lining is that it teaches us a hell of a lot.
Now that you're going to focus on YOU, you'll learn even more about who you are, how you got to be that way, and where you're going.
I'm excited for you 
Married 26 years
DDay #1 2/2002
DDay #2 6/2012
Gave him his second chance and he blew it.
Divorce final: 9/9/2014
It's hard to see the road ahead if you're always looking in the rear view mirror.
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