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Tripletrouble posted 4/1/2014 20:30 PM

My D day was 11 months ago and I've been in with my awesome therapist for the last nine of those months. Today felt groundbreaking. For the first time, we ventured into new territory - unpacking my pre-existing baggage. I have been so focused on the shock of discovery, the R attempt, the divorce, and the immediate aftermath. Today was the first time I felt ready to examine my own crappy issues that predate the infidelity. It was strangely empowering to devote some energy to fixing things about myself unrelated to my XH's path of destruction. It was like looking within and saying "hey Triple - you in there?". Yes, I am, right here, and I'm ready to own my shit. It's like the next chapter is starting and its a huge relief.

Ps I know therapize isn't a word but it's fun to say

kg201 posted 4/1/2014 20:38 PM

I like being therapetized.

one2ndchance posted 4/1/2014 21:27 PM

For every challenge we have in our lives, there is opportunity to learn and grow as a person. If you think about it, we grow most from difficulties and not so much from the easy times.

If we never had problems, how would we learn to cope? If we never had pain, how would we learn resilience? If we never had loss, how would we learn appreciation? If we never had struggles, how would we learn strength?

While it's hard to see infidelity and divorce as a blessing, the silver lining is that it teaches us a hell of a lot.

Now that you're going to focus on YOU, you'll learn even more about who you are, how you got to be that way, and where you're going.

I'm excited for you