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User Topic: Therapized today and feeling excited
♀ 39169
Member # 39169
Default  Posted: 8:30 PM, April 1st (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My D day was 11 months ago and I've been in with my awesome therapist for the last nine of those months. Today felt groundbreaking. For the first time, we ventured into new territory - unpacking my pre-existing baggage. I have been so focused on the shock of discovery, the R attempt, the divorce, and the immediate aftermath. Today was the first time I felt ready to examine my own crappy issues that predate the infidelity. It was strangely empowering to devote some energy to fixing things about myself unrelated to my XH's path of destruction. It was like looking within and saying "hey Triple - you in there?". Yes, I am, right here, and I'm ready to own my shit. It's like the next chapter is starting and its a huge relief.

Ps I know therapize isn't a word but it's fun to say

40 somethings - me BW after 20 years
D Day April 2013
Divorced November 2013
Time is a great healer but a terrible beautician.

Posts: 984 | Registered: May 2013
♂ 40173
Member # 40173
Default  Posted: 8:38 PM, April 1st (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I like being therapetized.

Me: BH, 40
Her: Ms. Daisy
Together 18 years, married 15+
LTA 3.5 years, living together
Dday: 7/28/13
Ds17, DS12, DD12
Divorced! 2/24/2015
Apology. You keep using that word. I do not think it means what you think it means.

Posts: 1155 | Registered: Aug 2013
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Member # 14759
Default  Posted: 9:27 PM, April 1st (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

For every challenge we have in our lives, there is opportunity to learn and grow as a person. If you think about it, we grow most from difficulties and not so much from the easy times.

If we never had problems, how would we learn to cope? If we never had pain, how would we learn resilience? If we never had loss, how would we learn appreciation? If we never had struggles, how would we learn strength?

While it's hard to see infidelity and divorce as a blessing, the silver lining is that it teaches us a hell of a lot.

Now that you're going to focus on YOU, you'll learn even more about who you are, how you got to be that way, and where you're going.

I'm excited for you

Married 26 years
DDay #1 2/2002
DDay #2 6/2012
Gave him his second chance and he blew it.
Divorce final: 9/9/2014

It's hard to see the road ahead if you're always looking in the rear view mirror.

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