Oh I know! When that atty started talking about the abuser taking out a RO on the victim because it will put the abuser on equal legal standing as the victim, I wanted to physically attack him & shut him up. But honestly "we" victims need to know about this. We need to hear that this kind of stuff is used as a tactic against us.
I have gone on to spend a lot of time researching & studying how abuse victims & their children fair during a divorce & custody dispute. It isn't pretty.