"'Cause there's a side to you that I never knew, never knew.
All the things you'd say, they were never true, never true "
Set Fire to the Rain
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Buy a diary... Note everything in it... From called to talk to...
If you raised anything with him..note it down, likewise note any follow up from him. Note visit times/dates... Even if he visits bit wat he's sport on TV not interacting w kids... Note it down
How is DD15 handling it? Hopefully she is not too hurt. She's old enough to also contribute to custody decision making...
Adding - use the utmost security (especially since you're 'in-house'). Come up with a way he could never get his hands on the 'documentation diary'.
Thanks for replies and advice. I do document. I keep a simple calendar with noted time he gets home and then in my phone I have a journal of notes dating back to 2010 when I started noticing odd behavior from him and now notes about parenting. I email to myself regularly and then print. I'm so tired of documenting and looking at the clock when he gets home. It's 10:30, I'd love to go to bed but gotta document when he gets home - if he does! I look forward to the day I won't have to do this. I look forward to the day I don't have to sleep with my purse so he doesn't go through it! I look forward to the day I don't run down to the computer to make sure I've logged off everything properly and cleared history if needed. These are just the little things I am looking forward to.....
DD15 is cognitively delayed so thinks more like a 7 yr old. She does have some friends that go from one parents house to another so she gets it but can't really relate it back to herself. So when asked- she doesn't really know other than she doesn't want her world rocked (too late!).