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User Topic: Nice guys bowl.....who knew?
PhoenixRising88
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Default  Posted: 3:48 PM, April 2nd (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

In my continuing quest to not be a hermit I went bowling about a month ago with some friends of mine. Just hanging with peeps, getting out of the house.

And I met this guy. He's smart, funny as hell, cute, and y'all, he has his shit together. He's been a BS -his wife of 25 years had an LTA the last 11 they were married. He's been divorced about two years. He's five years older than me, has three grown kids and seven grandbabies.

He politely asked for my number, and I politely gave it. We've been out about six times now, and each time I like him more and more. Not a single red flag, hell not even a yellow one. Not. One.
I almost don't know what to think, having stumbled across a normal and nice guy. I was convinced they no longer existed in my area of the world! (No offense to any male North Texans here in SI) :)

The only things we've not agreed on so far is I prefer to drink through a straw, I like Long John Silvers and can't stand cream gravy, and he doesn't use a straw, he'd rather go to Captain D's, and he really likes cream gravy. Not a dealbreaker in sight yet. Same political, religious, family views, taste in music and movies, etc. Our dates have ranged from really nice dinners to concerts to fishing to roaming the mall people-watching.

And - Ya'll, he holds doors open for me, pulls my chair out for me. Has since day one. The first time he did it I was like 'ok, i'll sit over here then' and he's all 'no, sweetie, i'm holding it out for you'. Threw me off. Not used to that. But am digging the hell out of it.

I'm taking it slow...But I am truly enjoying his company.


Me: BS (43)Him: EX, aka "The Dink"(50)
D-Day#1 12/22/11. D-Day#2 5/23/2013.

Divorce final 2/10/14.

Throw me to the wolves and I'll return leading the pack.


Posts: 434 | Registered: Apr 2012 | From: North Texas
Kajem
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Default  Posted: 3:56 PM, April 2nd (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Note to self..... Google bowling alleys in my new city!

I loved reading your update! Gives me hope.

Hugs,
K


I trust you is a better compliment than I love you, because you may not trust the person you love, but you can always love the person you trust. - Unknown
Relationships are like sharing a book, it doesn't work if you're not on the same page.

Posts: 5746 | Registered: Jul 2012 | From: Florida
PurpleRose
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Default  Posted: 4:02 PM, April 2nd (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Awesome! Enjoy it all!


divorced the Dooosh
*****************************
even if you find your voice,
sometimes it does not matter anymore,
when you speak to a man who is deaf by choice.
~dodinsky

Posts: 3631 | Registered: Aug 2011 | From: Happyville
Must Survive
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Default  Posted: 4:29 PM, April 2nd (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Yeah for you Phoenix!

The bowling alleys will wonder why there is such an uptick in bowlers in the next few weeks.


Me BS
WS: Just a squished bug on the window of my life!
Divorcing, STBXH is engaged/living with OW#3

They have a choice: they can live in my new world, or they can die in their old one." Daenerys Targaryen


Posts: 834 | Registered: Jan 2012 | From: Must Survive
Newlease
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Default  Posted: 8:27 AM, April 3rd (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

You just never know who you might meet while you are out enjoying your life!

Happy for you -

NL


Even if you can't control the world around you, you are still the master of your own soul.

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little turtle
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Default  Posted: 9:30 AM, April 3rd (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Yay for a happy dating post!!!


Failure is success if we learn from it.

Posts: 4247 | Registered: Aug 2007 | From: michigan
EvenKeel
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Default  Posted: 10:44 AM, April 3rd (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I would soooo dump him over the straw thing.

Just kidding - enjoy!


Eyes are useless if the mind is blind.


Posts: 2274 | Registered: May 2009 | From: Pa
nutmegkitty
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Default  Posted: 12:37 PM, April 3rd (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


me (BS)
him (NPD Ex)
2 dds
DDay 10/7/11
OW
OC

Divorced 1/17/2013

"Diamonds aren't a girl's best friend, freedom is."


Posts: 2624 | Registered: Nov 2011 | From: MA
She11ybeanz
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Default  Posted: 9:12 PM, April 3rd (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My dad met my mom at a bowling alley! He was fresh out of the military and she worked there as a waitress!!! And, my best friend is married to a serious bowling league guy....so I say go for it!!! They are both amazing guys! I hope to meet a guy like either of them someday!


"Sometimes your knight in shining armor ...is just a douchebag in tin foil!!"

ME - BW - 35
HIM - XWH - 39
D day: November 15th, 2009
Married: 5 Years, together 8
Divorced: December 13th, 2010
New Beginning: Piper/8-3-12


Posts: 2732 | Registered: Feb 2010 | From: Virginia
stronger08
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Default  Posted: 4:26 AM, April 4th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Ya know, I never thought about this before I read your post. But I met my first real GF in a bowling alley @ 14. And over the years I have dated 3 other women I met in one of those places. What's ironic is that I don't bowl. I find it boring and tedious. But I have gone to bowling alleys to hang with friends who do bowl and have been successful in meeting ladies. Perhaps I need to rethink my position on the sport.


You cant eat soup with chopsticks.

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GotPlayed
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Default  Posted: 8:45 PM, April 5th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Heh, just came back from taking the kids to the bowling alley. Should have been checking out the field then.

Filing under "good to know".


Master of my Fate, Captain of my Soul.
Me: BH 42, Her: WW 41. 18y married
DD: 11/5/13
DS10 Autism, DD8
OM: Ex-con for DV. Now with new ROs!
Divorcing

Posts: 827 | Registered: Nov 2013 | From: California
exhausted lady
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Default  Posted: 6:45 PM, April 7th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Ya just never know when a nice, "normal" guy is going to appear. I know I'd given up, and I was just going about my business, living my life, and shooting pool in competitions, when The Bear wandered in. I would NEVER have expected to meet a great guy in a biker bar shooting pool for money! The fact that he seemed intrigued after I beat him several times got him some major points.....but it still took months before I'd go out with him, I was watching for those red flags.

We've been together a year now, and it's been a damned tough year. But he's had my back at every single turn. I was very lucky to have him with me when my dad died, and my demented mom who lives with us recently told him she loved him. According to her - he grew on her. LOL!

For what it's worth, (and a chuckle), I had a vision of The Dude from "The Big Lebowski" from your title......and it made me grin. (BTW...I don't think "The Dude", at least the film version of The Dude, would be a good partner choice, but still....)

The Dude abides.....and it sounds like he might just be starting to abide in your heart. Good Luck!!!

Edited for clarity.....

[This message edited by exhausted lady at 6:47 PM, April 7th (Monday)]


Sometimes the hardest part of finally seeing through someone is accepting what you see...

God grant me the serenity to accept the people I cannot change, the courage to
change the one I can, and the wisdom to know it's me.
-Reinhold Neibuhr


Posts: 3168 | Registered: Nov 2010 | From: Colorado
Nature_Girl
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Default  Posted: 12:30 AM, April 8th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Y'all say "Hi" to my ex, would ya? He bowls quite a bit, and even takes the kids. I'm sure he looks like quite the catch.


Me = BS (Stay-at-home-mom)
Him = EX-d out (abusive troglodyte NPD SA)
3 tween-aged kids
Together 20 years
D-Day: Memorial Weekend 2011
2013 - DIVORCED!
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wJgjyDFfJuU

Posts: 10154 | Registered: Jun 2011 | From: USA
exhausted lady
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Default  Posted: 2:44 AM, April 8th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Nature_Girl....from your descriptions of your ex, I'm visualizing him as the guy that licks his bowling ball (very suggestively) before he throws it down the alley. Yikes!

Oh God....I still remember your "garage stories". I hope you brought in an exorcist (sp?) and a voodoo queen to cleanse that garage.

Yup, I'll bet your ex was/is.....a ball licker.


Sometimes the hardest part of finally seeing through someone is accepting what you see...

God grant me the serenity to accept the people I cannot change, the courage to
change the one I can, and the wisdom to know it's me.
-Reinhold Neibuhr


Posts: 3168 | Registered: Nov 2010 | From: Colorado
ChinaCat
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Default  Posted: 6:07 PM, April 8th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thank you for your posting! So happy for you!

I have no doubt amazing men are out there and someday I will meet the one who loves the livin heck out of me :)


"Every time I stay out late; every time I sleep in; every time I miss a workout; every time I don't give 100% - I make it that much easier for him to beat me!"
Me: BS & Beautiful!

Posts: 80 | Registered: Mar 2014 | From: USA
Nature_Girl
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Default  Posted: 6:34 PM, April 8th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Licking a bowling ball? People lick bowling balls? You mean there's more gross stuff out there that I never thought of?


Me = BS (Stay-at-home-mom)
Him = EX-d out (abusive troglodyte NPD SA)
3 tween-aged kids
Together 20 years
D-Day: Memorial Weekend 2011
2013 - DIVORCED!
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wJgjyDFfJuU

Posts: 10154 | Registered: Jun 2011 | From: USA
exhausted lady
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Default  Posted: 10:02 PM, April 8th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Licking a bowling ball? People lick bowling balls? You mean there's more gross stuff out there that I never thought of?

LMAO!!!!!!!

Yup. Hard to believe. If you ever get a chance watch "The Big Lebowski". Jeff Bridges, John Goodman, and the really creepy guy (can't remember his name) that licks his bowling ball.

I don't mean to imply in any way, shape or form that 99.999% of bowlers would EVER consider doing that - but it is indelibly imbedded in my memory and I haven't seen that flick in years. It was really that icky/gross/weird!!!

Anyway, I used to bowl before I got tennis elbow, and I met a lot of really great people while I was bowling. PhoenixRising.....enjoy the nice, normal guy you just met. You never know when a great guy is going to appear. If he likes to bowl, I think I'd give him points just for that.


Sometimes the hardest part of finally seeing through someone is accepting what you see...

God grant me the serenity to accept the people I cannot change, the courage to
change the one I can, and the wisdom to know it's me.
-Reinhold Neibuhr


Posts: 3168 | Registered: Nov 2010 | From: Colorado
better4me
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Default  Posted: 11:02 PM, April 8th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Happy, happy, happy for you PR88!!


DDay 11/17/2010 BW:53
Divorced

Posts: 3267 | Registered: Dec 2010 | From: Iowa
Griefstricken25
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Default  Posted: 1:24 AM, April 9th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Nature Girl, licking bowling balls is probably the least gross thing your ex would do.


Me!
3 amazing kidlets
To WXH "Now you're just somebody that I used to know." http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=d9NF2edxy-M
D-day and separation - June, 2009
Divorced - December, 2011

Posts: 2529 | Registered: Jul 2010 | From: A better place
wildbananas
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Default  Posted: 8:19 AM, April 9th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

^ consigned *shudder*

Phoenix, this sure made me smile for you.

PS: My parents also met in a bowling alley. They were married for 43 years.


Travel light, live light, spread the light, be the light. ~ Yogi Bhajan

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