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If people were just nice I might be able to give wS more time

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Sleepy312 posted 4/2/2014 18:42 PM

Yea we moved. To husband's hometown which is small yet outside(far burb) of NYC. People in general aren't very pleasant around here and I hadn't really noticed it until a store employee asked where "where are you from? Not here. You're too nice. "

Of course since the I've noticed just how not nice people are. Maybe if I felt like I was in a nice place with nice people I'd be more open to giving dh husband more time to straighten up.

I am over all this shit.

nekorb posted 4/5/2014 21:30 PM


So wait - are you in R? Does your WH not have friends who are decent in this town? Is someone helping you meet some friends?

Adeahan posted 4/5/2014 21:34 PM

i know what its like having a shitty mother in law believe me, mine told our kids what my wife had done, what kind of person does that? dont get me started i will lose my mind.

do you know anyone where you moved to? do you do any activities or anything where you might be able to meet people? im sure its not helping your R if you are not happy with your enviroment.

Sleepy312 posted 4/6/2014 11:49 AM

I don't know anyone here. I went out with a few moms if dc's friend the other night. I found out last night my husband had coordinated it which made me lose it and made me feel like a bigger loser.

I don't know ehst r is or what it looks like. I do know I'm lost and consumed with this crsp all day every day.

SadInNC posted 4/6/2014 12:10 PM

Hi Sleepy. I'm sorry that you're having a tough time adjusting to your new town. I'm a girl who was born and raised in Queens, NY and lived there until I was 27. I've lived in rural Ohio, New Jersey and now Southern, NC. I'm no stranger to feeling out of place, trust me.

I don't know where you are in NY, but one thing I do understand is the NY attitude. It's not that NY'ers aren't nice, they just don't do the whole "small talk thing with strangers" very well. Here's the catch--unless there is a reason for it. I know it's strange, but that's how it is. So, if you want to talk to strangers in NY, you need to have a point to your discussion. If you just say, "Hi" they will look at you like you have 3 heads. You need to have a reason for talking to them first. Even if it's just, "What time is it?" or asking for directions or their opinion on a product that you want to buy. If you approach them this way, you will meet people and find out that NY'ers really do have hearts of gold. They just get weirded out when a stranger says, "hi" for no reason. I truly hope that you can find some friends of your own.

Now, your MIL is another story. I have cut ties with mime completely because she is also toxic. UGH. I can't imagine having to live 2 blocks away. But if it's a NY block, it could be a LONG block.


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