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Helen of Troy posted 4/3/2014 12:35 PM

I am having a hard time leaving mine of 7 years.
I feel very dissatisfied; have to wait in order to keep benefits for the kids and for my education.
I had an interview, it went well.
But these two things are mildly triggery.

First staying in a marriage way longer than I should have due to fear and some ignorance.
Second it seemed unfaithful to go on an interview while still employed, kinda like a WS dating while married.

Logically I understand marriage and employment are different things, but feelings are real. Feelings are not necessarily factual. It just feels ick.

norabird posted 4/3/2014 13:56 PM

I think it's okay to feel these things so long as they don't interview with your actual decisions. It's important to remember that most employers will not be as loyal as you will--you need to look out for what is best for you and really don't owe it to your current employer to remain in a less than optimal situation. It truly is just business and everyone involved understands that.

Good luck!

nowiknow23 posted 4/5/2014 16:36 PM

((((HoT)))) Sending you new job mojo.

ray-ray posted 4/5/2014 18:55 PM

I so get this. I am there myself. I keep telling myself that if you do what you've always done, you'll be where you've always been. Good luck!

wildbananas posted 4/6/2014 10:55 AM

I completely understand. I just quit a job of 12 years last week. I did it for a variety of reasons but it boiled down to making a better life for me and the bunch. And yes, it feels totally ick. I felt horrible doing it. I have to say they were a lot more understanding than I thought they would be... at least to my face.

Sending you mojo.