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norabird posted 4/4/2014 08:56 AM

Ok I feel kind of embarrassed posting this just as the freshly divorced and battle-weary seem to be shifting over this way...

But this morning a friend divulged that she jumped into bed with someone she's started dating and I am SO. JEALOUS. Oh, and that it was great. I'm happy for her, but also uncomfortable at how this is reminding me what I don't have right now, and that I have no freaking IDEA when I will be ready for it.

When I was single before this whole expeience, it was very very unusual for me to go more than a few weeks without being with someone. Obviously that didn't end up working out for me in the long run, because I think if I had waited with my exWBF I might have passed on him, saving myself a world of pain. And I don't want to rush my healing which is not nearly done yet.

But...

[This message edited by norabird at 9:13 AM, April 4th (Friday)]

Newlease posted 4/4/2014 10:09 AM

Riding the bus sucks - no doubt about it. My primary love language is touch and before I hopped off the bus I was missing it so much.

I started indulging in massages. Not for sexual intimacy, but just for nurturing touch. It helped. That and I kept my BOB batteries stocked.

Hang in there.

NL

MadeOfScars posted 4/4/2014 10:21 AM

I know the feeling too. I've come to find out I just miss being in a relationship (and all the "fun stuff" that comes with it). It seems like EVERYONE I come in contact with has an SO, and, yeah, I guess I am jealous too.

That said, I know it'd be a mistake to pursue anything like that right now. Hell, my D isn't even final yet. I wish I could just hurry this healing process up, but yeah, all in due time I guess.

Hang in there.

Jrazz posted 4/4/2014 10:26 AM

(((norabird)))

sparkysable posted 4/4/2014 12:25 PM

I wouldn't be feeling jealous. I would be wondering WTF she is thinking jumping in to bed with someone she just started dating. But that's just me.

nowiknow23 posted 4/4/2014 12:31 PM

((((norabird)))) I'm so proud of you prioritizing your healing. You just cannot go wrong putting yourself first and doing the work. Well done, you.

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