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libertyrocks posted 4/4/2014 11:17 AM

Just read the caption on NB. "don't feel the pain of infidelity" YES!! Finally!!!! :) That's me!!!

So, now I just want to date a few Mr. Wrongs and have a bit of responsible fun. Flirting, going out, making out even. I don't want a relationship, I just want to live again. I have absolutely no intention of introducing anyone to my boys. I trust that God has Mr. Right waiting for me in the future, so I'm just gonna wait patiently and enjoy myself in the meantime. For the record, I don't drink. My logic is what if my kids need me. I can't be tipsey!!! So, my rule of thumb. I don't drink.

I filed for D last week and feeling so proud of myself. Gonna sell that ring and get a lawer, just in case STBXH wants to fight me.

So, that's where I'm at right now.

[This message edited by libertyrocks at 11:20 AM, April 4th (Friday)]

norabird posted 4/4/2014 14:33 PM

I'm not sure a Mr. Wrong is ever a good choice or a responsible one! It's possible to be casual without getting involved with a 'bad boy' type. Living again and enjoying yourself are good things, but I would be careful about not starting to purposefully go for guys who are undeserving. I do think it's hard to balance the desire to be patient with the desire to get some intimacy. See what works for you but be careful and maybe start out going on the town just with good friends with no expectations other than to hang out and bond.

libertyrocks posted 4/4/2014 15:29 PM

Thanks, nora bird. I think I needed to hear that. I'm just so damn lonely. :(

norabird posted 4/4/2014 22:57 PM

As a woman who spent her Friday night watching episodes of Bleak House from the BBC on Netflix, with a chocolate stout an a cat for company (which NEVER would have happened when I was previously single!), I feel you!!

But there's loneliness, which can be met by seeing friends, doing new meetup groups, joining a bookclub or volunteering or taking classes...and then there's like 'make this pain end and give me a distraction and let me feel close to a man again!' which I also feel and have tried to shut down, because it's more about running from what happened than facing it. KWIM?

Definitely get out there on the town with friends when you can, and start expanding or strengthing your social circle...and if a man comes along who you can have a brief and NSA but respectful fling comes around, great! You deserve it! But I would be careful about looking for the thrill of attention to validate yourself.

Mind you all this advice I am supposedly giving to you is actually just me thinking it through for myself! I could use a permanent vacation from Mr. Wrongs and if no one else ever gives them who kibbles that's fine by me!

ProbableIceCream posted 4/5/2014 00:09 AM

I recommend cultivating a rich relationship with an imaginary friend. It's pretty much perfect.