SA, WH, here. I am glad that you found SAA and that it seems to be working for you. Your post reminded me of the first time that I went to a in person meeting. It was shortly after my first of many D-Days with my BW and I found myself in a church with a number of other men who shared what they were going through and I related so much to what they were saying. Unfortunately, I lied to myself and my BW and thought that SAA was all I needed to stay sober.
As scaredyKAT mentioned, SA is complex and hard to beat. It takes a combination of things and changing the way you think and live to really deal with it. I am still having problems today and have not followed a lot of the advice that I am going to list below until VERY recently.
Slight t/j, I hope you would not mind if I share some of my own experiences with you. I have been in and out of "recovery" since 2008, and I find myself not under the same roof as my wife and son because of my addiction and continued acting out.
There is definitely a feeling of accomplishment and high when you make a change and move towards doing something about SA, but please stay focused and use all of your tools and use anything that you can to stay on the right path. I had a sponsor, but found a reason to ditch him. I was actively acting out and still attending meetings. I was still lying to my BW. I thought I had a handle on things and that I was abstaining from inner circle behaviors, so everything else was fair game. Hell, I shared my 1st step and still messed up.
You mentioned that folks should seek out something other than therapy in your post, but I am not sure I can agree with that. We are SAs for a reason. It really isn't about the sex or the orgasm, but rather how we use sex as a medication for our underlying problems. Without addressing those issues, you are merely scratching the surface.
Have you read "Out of the Shadows" by Dr. Patrick Carnes? Have you heard of Dr. Milton Magness? Are you journaling or otherwise writing everyday? Do you have a sponsor? How are you helping your BW to heal? What tools are you employing when you are triggered? Have you worked out what your circles are?
I didn't post those questions as an attack on your program, but merely as things for you to consider as you walk down this road of gentle healing. Good luck to you.
Her : BW, (determinata)
1 amazing son.
I am a sex addict, working on myself, and facing the wreckage of my actions. Original D-Day was in 2008. My lies about my sexual addiction and STD lasted for another 5 years.