gently, 3 months is still early. just being out of shock is an accomplishment. it's way too early to make yourself very vulnerable. probably the only approp. anger control now is to express it in a healthy way. trust probably should be something for late 2015 - if your h does the necessary work. imo, trust generally rebuilds slowly for a long while.
si's rule of thumb is 2-5 years from last hurt for recovery - life gets better as you go along, but healing takes a lot longer than any bs wants it to.