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User Topic: It will be okay
norabird
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Member # 42092
Default  Posted: 10:46 PM, April 4th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Tonight I was crying in the locker room after my workout. I don't know why--I was just down all day. Tired but not from a lack of sleep. Struggling with sadness. When I exercise, those feelings get even stronger--my resistance to the feelings melts away with my workout.

Normally I go into a bathroom stall and sit on the toilet to bawl. Today I was just frozen in place, sobbing and sweaty. It's not a very busy locker room.

I looked up to see a woman had approached me. She put a generous pile of tissue in front of me.

"Whatever it is," she said, "it's going to be okay."

She had her own issues. Her own life. And she took a moment to be kind and encouraging to me when I needed to hear exactly that.

So tonight I'm telling you, too: It is going to be okay.


Sit. Feast on your life.

Posts: 4235 | Registered: Jan 2014 | From: NYC
lastdance
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Member # 42401
Default  Posted: 11:06 PM, April 4th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

((((((((((((( HUGS))))))))))))


yes it will be ok.........it will be ok


Posts: 153 | Registered: Feb 2014 | From: orlando, fl
mainlyinpain
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Member # 39134
Default  Posted: 11:55 PM, April 4th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((norabird)))

I'm glad someone was there for you with a kind word, as you are always here for us.


DD 1 - 7/7/2004
DD 2 - 10/31/2011
DD 3 - 4/30/2013(or continuation?)(Yes)
DD 4 - 9/25/2013
DD 5 - 2/15/2014 (found phone from 2009)

Posts: 526 | Registered: Apr 2013
StillStanding1
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Default  Posted: 12:53 AM, April 5th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

^^^^Ditto, Norabird!!! So glad every time I hear of someone acting with unexpected compassion. That's awesome.

Sorry those sad moments can be overwhelming. And she was right -- it IS going to be okay.

Take care, Norabird.


Me: 40s BS, Him: 40s WH
M 21 yrs - 3 teens
LTA = 2+ yrs, Dday = 2/10/13, he moved out, he officially moved back in 1/25/14 and our work continues...

Posts: 746 | Registered: Aug 2013 | From: MidWest
yearsofpain25
♂ 42012
Member # 42012
Default  Posted: 11:08 AM, April 5th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((norabird))) Yes. It will most definitely be ok. Thank you for sharing that story. It's nice to know that there is still some benevolence out there.


"I remind myself of this. I am a survivor. I have taken all this world has dished out and am still here. So there is no reason to be afraid. Whatever happens, I will survive. So now onto living. It is time for me to thrive." - DrJekyll

Posts: 2484 | Registered: Jan 2014 | From: Northeast US
LeftOutintheCold
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Default  Posted: 11:14 AM, April 5th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thank you for sharing this. Things WILL be okay. ((hugs))


Me - 42
WH - 40
Dday - 3/6/14
Married 5yrs, together 11yrs
Status - Headed towards Divorce

Posts: 332 | Registered: Mar 2014
justinpaintoday
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Default  Posted: 11:21 AM, April 5th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I am blessed at the kindness of strangers. People do shitty things but many do beautiful things as well. Wow


I never realized you could be in this much pain and not be dying.

Posts: 700 | Registered: Mar 2014
OK now
♀ 14459
Member # 14459
Default  Posted: 11:28 AM, April 5th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

As mainlyinpain said you give a lot to the SI community with your helpful advice, even with all your own distress to deal with.

((((((More hugs))))))


Posts: 1869 | Registered: May 2007 | From: NC
iamsoblind42
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Default  Posted: 11:33 AM, April 5th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I was in Church last Sunday and the sermon was about "A True Friend". I bawled the whole time. I have only been to that church 3 times and a lady came up to me with tissue and gave me card with her name and number after that said call me anytime.

The random acts from a stranger during times like this is so powerful.

norabird, I have lost it at the gym as well. I do think working out helps get a lot of emotion to the surface. Wish you lived closer. I'd go work out with you! {{{Hugs}}}


I'm a survivor, I'm gonna make it, I will survive, keep on surviving...

BS: me 42
WH: 48
2 kids
Married 18 years
D-day - 1/11/14
Filed - 1/16/14
Divorced 4/21/14
Walked in on WH and BF while her H watched


Posts: 212 | Registered: Jan 2014 | From: Colorado
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