On my DD xwf came to me and excitedly said "Do you SEE why a counselor couldn't help us??!!"
I just looked at him. (I had no idea at the time all the stuff and craziness that the A had put into our relationship and my life. Boy did I find out soon and still 3 yrs. later am).
Had to make him leave as I found him texting her that night.
On the phone soon after Dd when he was sneakily trying to start a fight with me and make me look like the bad one, I asked him twice if "she" knew we were engaged. And he said yes. So I said "well that says alot about HER resume, doesn't it?" (He dealt alot with resumes as he lost his job 3 times in our 8 years together trying to pay bills and hold it together)
Then 3 weeks later when he came to get his stuff, and he was rude and nasty to me at the cell phone store to get me off his plan, I asked him what work she did.
He said, yes and I emphasize: A THERAPIST.
I just laughed and said "oh, that'll be fun!"
Whatever. Let her have him. A few weeks later he said "It blew up."
Hopefully this doesn't offend or trigger you. Just my experience.
I told my IC it was crazymaking. Hard to put it into words.