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Russian Sage (Perovskia atriplicifolia) is another. It's also known as tumbleweed
but I doubt you'll have that problem in the east.
ETA: I missed the part about shade; kniphofia won't grow in the shade, but Russian sage will.
[This message edited by Sad in AZ at 1:49 PM, April 5th (Saturday)]
Me: FBS (no longer betrayed nor a spouse)-62
D-day: 2007 (two years before finding SI)
S: 6/2010; D: 3/2011